Cyberbullying…. it’s real, it’s everywhere, but most of all, it’s annoying. People seem to think that just because they are sitting behind a computer or a cell phone, that they can say whatever they want, regardless of the feelings it may hurt and the damage it might do. I’m over it… especially in the small shop community that I love.
Growing up, I was taught the same thing, over and over again… If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. Maybe I’m naive, but I figured that was something that was taught in every household. It seems nowadays people thrive on attention, even if it’s negative, maybe even more so when it’s negative. Y’all, our ancestors are turning over in their graves right now. This is not how they raised us. Stop being a jerk!
I understand that social media is public. By putting pictures of ourselves and our kids in a public place, we are opening ourselves up to criticism (welcomed or not). I understand that we made the decision to put these pictures out there for the world to see. What I don’t understand is how people think that it’s ok for them to accuse someone of being an unfit mother or dressing their child “inappropriately”…. Who are you to decide what is appropriate and what isn’t, when it’s not your own child? You are judging them based on one picture. How ridiculous is that?!
Driving home this morning, I heard on the radio that Snooki (Nicole Polizzi) was being criticized on social media for putting makeup on her 2 year old for her dance recital. She wound up turning off comments because she just didn’t want to hear from the trolls who were telling her how to be a good Mom. Newsflash people… my kids have been dancing for years and in our studio, makeup is required for recitals. Do you think she was just putting mascara on her two year old to take her out to the park?! And even if she was, is that any of your business?! Just because she’s a celeb and she shares her life with us, doesn’t give you the right to be rude. If she was standing in front of you would you say those things?! Probably not…. you’d just be asking her for an autograph and a selfie. Instead of ridiculing her, why not commend her on the life she has built for her kids… her success….
And while celebs get hit with it the hardest, it’s not something that any of us can escape. I’ve watched small shops and brand reps get attacked for no good reason. Let me be completely real here…. if you stumble upon a picture that you don’t like because the outfit isn’t something you’d put on your child, or a mama is breastfeeding her baby or you are just having a bad day…. keep your negative thoughts to yourself. When we post pictures of ourselves or our children, we aren’t doing it to get our feelings hurt. We deal with enough on a daily basis. Don’t ruin someone’s day. If you HAVE TO say something, say it out loud, to yourself and then move on to the next picture on your feed. It’s that simple. Spreading hate and negativity will never get you any respect. All it will do is get you blocked and reported.
Let’s get back to basics kids… if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. Out loud… on social media… anywhere. Maybe if we practiced more positivity in our daily routine, we would all live happier lives. Set a good example for your children. They are watching, they are listening and they will act the same way, whether it’s right or wrong. I choose to teach my girls that all people are beautiful, no matter their size, their color, their religion or their beliefs. They will grow up to respect others feelings and give them a hug as opposed to a kick in the back. They will help them up if they fall, instead of laughing at them. Focus on your kids and being the best parent you can be before you criticize someone else for what you think they are doing right or wrong. It’s that simple.
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Heather is the Mom of three and a marketing professional. She enjoys graphic design, writing, photography and making new memories with her family.