It’s the last official weekend of Summer and I’m hardcore celebrating. And by hardcore celebrating, I mean lighting my @raedunn fall scented candles, binge watching Netflix and going to bed before 10pm. 🙌🏻 Remember when our nights didn’t even start until 10pm? I would dance all night, get back home with just enough time to shower and change before heading out to work. AND I could work a full 8 hours without ever feeling the fact that I hadn’t slept in more than 24 hours... Now I’m unable to function if someone wakes me up 15 minutes early. Getting old is awesome. .
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It’s the last official weekend...

I read something the other day on Facebook that said that the song that was number 1 on your 14th birthday, defines your life. I googled it, excited to find a message, a sign (I’m a sucker for that sort of thing). Instead, I found it was “Cream” by Prince. 😐 Cream? What does that mean? Ice cream? Coffee creamer? 
So I looked it up... and read the lyrics. "Cream" was meant to mean “cream of the crop”. There are lyrics like “everything you do is success” and my favorite part... “Do your dance
Why should you wait any longer?
Take a chance
It could only make you stronger”  Message received, Prince. Message received. 
What song was number one on your 14th birthday?
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I read something the other...

This girl lost another tooth last week. I’ve been waiting for this toothless smile since she knocked her other one out last year. Unfortunately, it’s not going to last long because her adult tooth is already growing in 😭. (Zoom in to see) Yesterday I noticed both of her front-bottom teeth are peeking out behind her baby teeth too. Does anyone know how to slow down time. A button? A phone call? Maybe a time machine? My baby isn’t a baby anymore. Cue the tears. Have you celebrated any milestones with your kids recently?
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This girl lost another tooth...

I don’t get bouquets of flowers for no reason…. But I do appreciate the flowers that grow by our mailbox, like this one. And it made me realize something this morning.  I’m over it. 
I’m over comparing my life to other people’s lives on social media.
My house might not be as fancy. 
My wardrobe is not as expensive. 
I don't apply makeup as well or even at all most days.
I don’t have beautiful, long flowing hair.
I don’t drive a car that’s worth bragging about. 
We don’t go on lavish trips around the world. 
I don’t carry loads of money in designer handbags. 
Does that make me less of a person? 
Does that make me less of an influencer? 
No. It makes me a regular 40-something Mom who has chosen to open up and share our lives on social media.  It makes me someone who has built this hobby of photography and writing into a business that has solely supported my family for a year and a half. 
I’m proud of that. 
I’m proud that I’m not a follower.
I’m proud that I have worked hard for what I’ve achieved.
I’m proud of influencers like me who are unapologetically themselves.  What are you proud of? .
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I don’t get bouquets of...

F O U R T E E N. 
What do you give your oldest daughter when she turns 14? Well, when you’re me, you write her a poem and post it on the blog for the world to see. Head over to read it and let me know what you think. Then, help me wish Lucia the best 14th birthday ever 👇🏻👇🏻
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F O U R T...

It was just after Iyla's third birthday. She seemed to be on track, at least according to the pediatrician's checklist. She could follow instructions, name most familiar things, knew her first name, spoke in sentences and could carry a conversation, though she was hard to understand most of the time. We enrolled her in preschool that year and she was a little social butterfly. But as that school year went on, her teachers started to notice that she was struggling to get her words out. Most people that know Iyla today, have no idea that she was in speech therapy classes for two years. They have no idea that I fought it for almost 6 months and that I felt a tremendous guilt about it, because I thought it was my fault that she was stuttering as badly as she was. Today on the blog, I’m sharing the mistakes I made, in hopes that if you are ever in this situation, you take advantage of early intervention. .
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It was just after Iyla's...

There are two types of kids. 1) The kid who wants to eat the same thing every single day of the week, sometimes more than one time per day and 2) The kid who loves something one day and then hates it the next. #ad Which type of kid do you have? Or, are your kids like mine and bounce back and forth between the two? Either way, there is a way to make lunches more fun for kids. I'll let you in on a little secret... creating fun lunches is more fun for us too! This week, we created our first character, Inspector Caper Eyes. Head to the blog for more details! Plus, learn why we choose @JuicyJuiceUSA new better-for-you options, which are packed with functional benefits with juicy flavor that parents can feel great about serving to their kids.
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There are two types of...

Remember I told you guys about our day dates now that the girls are #backtoschool? Well, we’ve really been enjoying them. #sponsored We walk, talk and laugh (a lot). Have you seen our IGTV yet? It’s a cheesy, beautiful video of what our relationship is like. I love that we’re able to connect and that we can make the time in our day to focus on our relationship and our health. Since we have three daughters, it’s even more important to go the extra mile when it comes to taking care of ourselves. These awesome @amazfit watches help us with that. I have the Amazfit Verge and Super Dad has the Amazfit Bip. They are lightweight, have app notifications and track your daily activity, your heart rate and so much more. The Amazfit Bip comes with a 30-day battery life and the Verge comes with Alexa built-in and you can make and receive phone calls through the watch. We can track our activity, sleep and heart rate and hold each other accountable for better decisions, when it comes to fitness and health. Visit to check them out and make sure to take advantage of the sale they’re currently having. No discount code necessary! What are you doing to get back to you? .
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Remember I told you guys...

Take me back to the time when all I had to do was color in the lines, learn my abc’s and take a long nap everyday. Why didn’t we appreciate what we had back then? .
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Take me back to the...

#AD Our girls love nature, so this weekend, we headed to a local nature preserve for a little animal watching, walking and family time. We always pack the essentials when we're heading out in this Florida heat, including snacks, sunblock and @smartwater, because we know how important it is to stay hydrated. We love smartwater® because it's purified water made using vapor distillation, similar to the way water is purified in nature. It's available in 700mL and 1L bottles. Now through 9/15, you can save $2.75 off at Sam's Club, so stock up! (limit 10 per member) #kidsfitness #fitnessfun #daddyslittlegirl #natureseekers #naturephotos #exercisemotivation #familyfitness #fitnessforlife #qualitytime #bestdad #bestdayever #bestfriendgoals #fatherdaughter #dadofgirls #smartwater #hydrate #hydration #drinkwater #marshalls #marshallsfinds

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Are Purchase Requirements a Thing of the Past?

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We’ve been repping for almost two years, so we’ve had our fair share of experience when it comes to working with small shops, as an ambassador, a rep, an enthusiast and even a fan.  Some experiences have been nothing short of amazing, while others made me question whether or not I wanted to continue repping (but that’s a whole ‘nother blog post).  Recently, it seems as though shops are finding that people are not applying to be a part of their teams if there are purchase requirements involved.  And I want to set the record straight.  It’s not because they are cheap. It’s not because they are looking for freebies… it’s because a lot of us are just not financially able to spend the money in addition to the time we dedicate. And that’s the sad reality of it.

I’ve said it before… it’s hard work being a part of a small shop team.  I remember when we first started, I thought it was getting clothes for free and snapping a few pics on my cell. And I’m not ashamed to admit I was SO WRONG!  I’m literally spending hours a day on something rep related.  Whether it’s shopping, styling, taking pictures, driving to and from the location, editing, posting, interacting, writing blog posts, answering emails, sharing sales (something I tend to forget to do more than I’ll admit), posting and organizing or posting giveaways…. I’m almost always doing something rep related.  And while it’s more rewarding than any job I’ll ever have, it’s also taking up time where I could be working and making money to pay the bills.

While I absolutely LOVE all things brand repping, I also need to be able to put food on the table and pay our bills so I have to put family first when I make decisions that are brand rep related.  It’s something that I find extra hard because I want to buy ALL of the clothes!  I’ve personally decided to stop applying to shops that have purchase requirements.  That doesn’t mean that I’m not spending money (believe me, my bank account will prove otherwise)… but that does mean that I can use my small shop budget on shops as I see fit.  If I need shorts to match with a tee, I can buy them.  If I see a crazy sale that I can’t pass up, I can take advantage of it!  If one of the shops we are working with is having a new release, I can participate! Believe it or not, I actually spend more with shops we work with that don’t have purchase requirements than those that do.

With purchase requirements, I feel pressure to buy something each month.  I will usually make that purchase at the beginning of the month so that I don’t forget.  But what happens with those shops that only release a few pieces at a time?  What if I have all of the pieces I love already?  What if I don’t really need anything else that they’re offering? I’m still obligated…. and so I have to spend part of my budget on something that I probably wouldn’t have purchased otherwise.

I decided to keep track of one particular experience, just so that I could put things into perspective.

We were enthusiasts for a small shop last year.  It was a shop that I was already purchasing from so when I joined the team, I could afford to buy more items because I was receiving a discount, which is always a big plus for me!  I made my first required monthly purchase.  The retail total of the three items I chose would have been around $78.  With my enthusiast discount, I paid around $60 with shipping.  All three items were photographed separately.  I spent around 30 minutes on each shoot and another 30 minutes editing each shoot.  Posting and interacting to get more likes/comments on the post was another 30 minutes (per post and I typically post 3 per shoot).  So if you’re keeping track… for this one order of three items, I spent approx. 7 1/2 hours.  My discount?  $23.40.  That’s a little more than $3 an hour for my time.

And this is where my husband and I disagree on things… he doesn’t see it as money saved, he sees it as money and time spent.  He pointed out that I actually paid $60 and spent 7 1/2 hours, working hard so that this shop could get exposure and images.  And while I was getting a discount on some INCREDIBLE handmade items, unfortunately, I can’t pay the bills with those items.  While he is absolutely right (shhh! don’t tell him I said that), I try to think about the end game.  I knew that when Falynn outgrew the items, I could sell them in a B/S/T group and while I won’t make all of my money back, I will get a portion back.  If you read my last blog post, you know that I don’t sell the items to make money, I sell them to make room, to get more exposure for these shops and to be able to afford to buy more small shop items.  For these particular items, I wound up receiving a total of $21 (after shipping) for all three items.  $21 that was quickly spent on a portion of a purchase requirement for another shop. A spending cycle that will probably never end.

So what can you do as a rep to continue to support these small shops without going broke or committing such a large chunk of your time to it?  My suggestion is to limit the number of shops you are committing to.  Don’t enter every search just to enter. Set a budget and stick to it.  Never spend more than you can afford. No shop wants you to go without eating just so that you can buy something from them (and if they do, you don’t want to work with them anyway). Sit down and really figure out what your budget is and STICK TO IT!  As hard as it may be, do it!  Don’t be afraid to sell the items in a B/S/T group once your little one has outgrown them.  Commit to use that money to purchase new items vs. using the money in the bank.

Now, let me give you my perspective as a shop owner.  This little experiment has really helped me tremendously with my own small shop team and finally allowed me to understand that purchase requirements aren’t necessary, especially when you have a strong team who love and support you.  I stopped holding searches. Instead, I message customers that have posted great pictures and invite them to join the team.  There are no terms, they can all stay as long as they’d like to.  I took away titles.  There are no more “levels”.  There aren’t different discounts. Everyone on the team receives the same discount to use when they need something.  If they don’t have the money, they can support my shops by sharing or interacting on my IG. I give everyone the same opportunity for freebies or heavily discounted items, when I have new items and need pictures.  We have a contest once every few months where they can win shop credit or free goodies.  I can’t speak for my team, but I think that it’s much less pressure for them and much less spending that they have to do.  I feel like the atmosphere in our group is more laid back and people are enjoying it more because they are taking pictures of things they wanted, not things they were required to buy.  And while I’m still working on things, I want to make sure that my team is a team that I would want to be a part of, as a rep.

Shops, put yourself in your team’s shoes.  Don’t think about it as a guaranteed sale every month, but more as a privilege to work with these incredible Mamas who will take beautiful pictures of your items and promote your shop because they want to, not because you are requiring them to.  That’s the key to your success as a small shop.  Surround yourself with people who are in this to help you but understand that none of them have money trees growing in their backyards.  Set a budget for advertising and stick to it!  Provide a discount or freebies based completely around your advertising budget.  Keep track of your orders and the return you are getting from this. Make changes as necessary until you find the sweet spot where you are getting the promotion you need to make the sales you need to pay your bills.

See, when we come together as a community, we can do big things for each other.  Reps and shops can and should be helping each other equally and looking out for one another.  We wouldn’t be reps if it wasn’t for the shops and shops wouldn’t have the promotion and pictures they need without reps.  Neither side is rolling around in money, but if we work together we can help each other to get to a place where repping is fun again and everyone is able to pay their bills.

In case you’re looking, my favorite B/S/T group is: Insta-Style Baby & Mama BST.

What do you think about this subject? Comment below and let me know your thoughts!  Have a topic you want me to talk about? Email us! Make sure to follow our daily small shop fashion on Instagram @thesmallfashionista and on our new Facebook page.


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  • I totally agree. This was such a good read, and I will now look forward to reading your future blog posts. It was the first time I’ve clicked on it and your blog made me glad I did! Love your insight on it and I agree with everything. I am finishing up my 2nd team of reps and also feel that my sales were actually higher from them when taking away the purchase requirements I had the first term.

  • Sasha Job
    May 6, 2017

    totally agree – the purchase requirements were a big part of why we stopped entering! I totally get the trade idea, but my hubby was like yours – telling me “you’re paying for their advertising”!!! ultimately my goal was never to be a rep page, so I didn’t feel like I’d ever be able to keep up with the shops that had so many “must do” requirements! also, it’s pretty disheartening when I had to pay for an item, take time to take pics, have to share/promote … and then the shop sends a box of free stuff to someone who saw the items on our page! there’s really no way around that, I suppose, but I don’t feel as bad about when I’m not a rep – if that makes sense! great read, thanks

  • Tracy Shane
    May 5, 2017

    I love this and hope that I will be able to do this eventually. As a new shop I’m still not in the black to the point where I have the kind of budget for advertising I have now if I didn’t have purchase requirements. I think because the majority of my business is in customs I can’t buy in materials in bulk to increase my margins. However, I do put the money from PR directly into my marketing budget. I also think since I do a lot of customs it isn’t as hard for someone to purchase what they want. I don’t only offer “X” amount of choices. Each term I am making steps towards bigger discounts and fewer PRs and hope to get to the point where I won’t have to require them.

    I look at shops like yours (both IBA and TLTC) and strive to become as successful as you have and work hard to continue to build relationships and partnerships with my team. In addition to the rep blog posts I really enjoy posts from the shop side too. Any pointers I can helps! ?

    • TheSmallFashionista
      May 6, 2017

      I did have purchase requirements for the first year or so, but found that as soon as I dropped them, my sales increased. Not because I was “forcing” people to buy but because they truly wanted to, which meant that they were genuinely promoting me and my shops. It wasn’t until I dropped them that I finally saw an increase in customer orders vs. having all of my orders from my team. It was obvious too because I would get orders for a specific tee or accessory within 24 hours of their posts going up. It’s a transition that’s awesome and I am sure you will also get there soon! Thanks for reading and commenting 🙂

  • Stephanie
    May 5, 2017

    Love this post! When we started repping it quickly became overwhelming (the time,the money,the stress) it was not fun anymore and we had to bow out of a lot of teams. To this day we don’t work with many teams because like you said when I can financially buy I want to buy something I will love and enjoy taking pics of.
    Thanks for the post,

    • TheSmallFashionista
      May 6, 2017

      Thank you for reading! I agree! Sometimes we get so excited about the idea of repping that all common sense leaves our bodies… I know it did for me and like you said, I didn’t love it anymore.

  • Kristi
    May 5, 2017

    As a shop, I just started with a new team this month… but have been highly considering this for the next term.

    • TheSmallFashionista
      May 5, 2017

      I’d love to hear how both options work for you! I think there has to be a lot of trial and error for new shops, but eventually you will find what works best for you! Thank you for reading!

  • As a shop, I don’t require my reps to buy anything more than what they want. I don’t do term agreements or make them share and post anything more than thier rep pictures. I’m realistic, I know life happens. I hate being committed to buying something every so often, so why would I expect my customers to?! If my reps truly love my items, they will continue to purchase at a comfortable pace and I will in return get more sales and more quality photos in the end. No one likes to feel pressured. ❤ Great blog!

  • Jess
    May 5, 2017

    Totally agree!!! As a shop this is currently how I’m holding my search. I just rebranded and am basically starting all over so I’m holding a search and there are no purchase requirements. I find that as a rep I’m more inclined to purchase if I don’t necessarily have to if that makes sense lol.

    • TheSmallFashionista
      May 5, 2017

      That makes complete sense to me! I think it’s psychological lol. Thanks for reading!

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