Cyber-Bullied on YouTube, My 12 Year Old’s Story

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My daughter, Lucia is 12.  She is a sweet, intelligent and caring young lady who has always stood up for what she believed in and has never been afraid to speak her mind until recently when she was cyber-bullied on YouTube.  Lucia asked if she would be able to share her story on our blog so that she might prevent other kids from being subjected to the same cyber-bullying that she was and of course, I couldn’t be more proud of her big heart and more so, her courage.  Here is her story.

Being Cyber-Bullied on YouTube

October 19, 2017 was a very memorable day for me but this is the kind of memorable that you want to forget and pretend that it never happened.

It was about 5:15 in the afternoon on a Thursday and I had just sat down to eat and watch some videos on YouTube (typical me stuff). As I was watching a Logan Paul vlog, “Two members of the Logang almost killed me,” I realized that he was exaggerating a lot about a situation that happened with two of his fans. Basically, two 11-12 year old girls had put a poster on the windshield of Logan’s ‘cool bus’ saying that they would love to meet him.

In his video, he said something like… it’s one thing to drop off fan mail. It’s another thing to drop off a safety hazard on my bus. Literally it blinds me!  Instead of taking the poster off, he left it there and started driving so the poster blocked his view. The two girls reported that they got bullied because of what he said in his video.  Being the person that I am, I decided to politely comment my concern for the girls. I left it at that and walked away not knowing what trouble that comment would bring.

The next day, I had TONS of notifications from YouTube. I had 156 replies and I can’t even begin to describe how wide my eyes got. As I read the comments, my eyes started to fill with tears. I sat there staring at my phone for a long time reading all of those mean comments. There were people threatening to kill me, calling me very hurtful names, saying “you will not be missed” and that I should “get a life”. All of this confused, insulted, and upset me greatly. 

After I read the comments, I couldn’t hold it in anymore. I just started bawling my eyes out. I buried my head in my pillow and just cried myself to sleep. I couldn’t believe how mean people could be.  I thought I was actually in danger.  I decided to show my Mom the next morning. She read all of the comments and quickly deleted my comment so that no one else could comment something mean on it.  She couldn’t delete them from my mind though. 

I wonder if people act like this because of insecurity or problems at home. If kids or teens are insecure, they may post mean things on social media to project an image of confidence. They may say hurtful things to others because they think that it’s cool. In my opinion, this is not ‘cool’ and I think it can be stopped.

If you are being bullied, you should always tell an adult. We should also start holding school-wide assemblies on the prevention of bullying for all grades. It’s never too early to learn the damage you could cause someone online.  I will never forget the day I was cyber-bullied on YouTube but I hope by reading my story, kids will understand that it’s not ok to treat people badly, even online. 

Turning This Into a Teachable Moment

The internet is a scary place and it’s only getting worse.  As my girls get older, even though we try to restrict what they watch, I realize that I can’t protect them from everything, all of the time.  While it upsets me that Lucia had to experience this, I’m grateful that she is so open with me and that we were able to turn this into a teachable moment. I know that there are some Moms that are not so lucky.

As parents, it’s our responsibility to make sure that our kids are behaving on social media.  So, let’s remind our kids that there are real people with real feelings at the other end of those comments.   Let’s bring back that good old saying “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” Words can sting just as badly when they are read, as they are if they are said directly to someone’s face.  Just one mean comment can change a person’s life forever, or worse… take a life of someone who deserved so much more time, respect and love.

When my 12 year old told me she had been cyber-bullied, I made sure I turned it into a teachable moment.

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  1. YouTube is the worst for people just being mean and leaving rude comments. Good for you for turning an awful situation into a teachable moment.

  2. My daughter has been subject to this too. Social media has it’s ups and downs, but one of the big downs is that it makes so many people anonymous enough to feel powerful saying things they wouldn’t dare to (we hope) in person.

  3. This is really disheartening and I cannot believe people can be so mean and hurtful to a 12-years old. I am glad that your daughter opened up to you about this and you did a great job by turning this into a teachable moment.

  4. Yes I know kids are so mean, my son has eczema, his friends use to tease him about his skin. He is only 7 year old still he is upset. Glad that your daughter is fine. i know internet is bad place.

  5. For your daughter: You did a great thing by telling your mom! I’m so sorry you went through that, people get confidence online and say things they would never dream of saying in real life. Believe me, it says more about them then it says about you. People are cruel but, know it’s them with the issue, not you!

  6. The internet can be an eye-opening place. It is good to hear that you took this awful situation and used it as a teachable moment with you daughter.

  7. I’m sorry it happened to your daughter. Sometimes I wonder how people can be so mean. But I’m glad you two handled it well.

  8. I am so glad she talked to you and that you deleted the comment. As for bullying it happens offline as well. My son was 7 and being bullied in school and tried to take his own life. Thank God he came into our living room before he could hurt himself but I will never forget that moment. I wish there was a bullying program in all schools.

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  9. This is a brave story. It’s not easy to be bullied online. It’s all about balance and trying to be positive despite the bad reactions of people.

  10. I am so sorry about what happened to your daughter. So glad that you told us here about it. This is really useful for all the parents.

  11. This is such a sad story – and also a terrific teaching moment, as you said. I’m so glad that your daughter felt able to reach out for help and support. People can be so cruel online.

  12. Ugh, how horrible. I am constantly shocked by how awful people can be on the Internet. Glad you used this as a teachable moment.

  13. That is incredibly brave to share this story. I bet she helped a bunch of people with her story.

  14. Such a tough thing that we all experience and it doesn’t end in childhood.

  15. Social media can be such a scary place. I am so sorry this happened to your daughter; it’s not okay! I will never understand how people can spew such hatred; I’m glad you both were able to at least take something positive away from that experience!

  16. I am so sorry that happened to your child. Seriously, its frustrating how kid can be bullied even online.

  17. This is heart breaking. We aren’t to this point yet since my kids are so little but I am terrified of dealing with this someday soon.

  18. This is so scary and so sad. You’ve done so well in helping your little one. I dread when I have to explain this to my little bean.

  19. People can be SO mean online because they don’t need to ever see them in person. I think that the internet has it place, but it should not take the place of actually having to talk to people. I hope that your daughter will be ok and tell her we are not all like that.

  20. Never knew people could be so nasty online.The fact this is being shared is such a good thing to make others aware Feel so sorry for the little one.Wish you well.

  21. Oh my gosh, I’m so sorry to hear that… if you’re interested, I work with an Anti-Bullying charity and can get you in touch with our director, who may be of help to your daughter. Feel free to email me. 🙂

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  22. That is so awful! Bullying has gotten out of control. You can’t get away from it, it seems. YouTube has gotten out of control with the bullying, too. It’s almost as bad as reddit these days!

  23. It is so tough to read stories like this because kids can really get hurt. My daughter and son spend a lot of time on the internet and need to learn about the bad things that can happen.

  24. Oh gosh, YouTube is a really bad place for what my kids call “trolls”. They are mean and you have to have a really thick skin to be on that channel. That’s why it’s scary for kids who have no idea what that channel can create for them. My kids have experienced their fair share on YT, but they went into it knowing there are very rude people on there. I am very sorry to hear this happened … it’s a cruel place.

  25. Sorry hear that this happened to your daughter. I’m happy that you were able to turn this into a teachable moment.

  26. People can be so cruel online. My son has a YouTube channel and he’ll get rude comments. I just tell him to ignore them. I remind him that people who leave comments like that are usually unhappy people who want everyone else to be miserable. I’m sorry your daughter went through it, but I’m glad she learned something as well.

  27. I’m so sorry that your daughter had to go through this. The internet really is a dangerous place because people say things that they would never say in real life. I’m glad you were able to turn this into a teachable moment.

  28. Guess because they think they will never be confronted it gives them the right to say whatever they want. People of all ages on social media. Sorry this happened.

  29. wow- im so sorry your daughter is going through this but like everyone said to- she handling it extremely well- kindness is the best policy and im hoping that she can continue to stand up for herself and keep learning from these teachable moments!

  30. My daughter is 13 but she is not into social media which I am glad. My son has a youtube page but seldom use it. Glad your daughter turned her experience into a teachable moment.

  31. Are you friggin’ kidding me?! I just don’t understand this world – and I REALLY don’t understand the world of bullying! Ugh. Makes me so angry that people can actually be so dang mean!

  32. I’m constantly amazed at how mean people (kids AND adults) can be while they are hiding behind their keyboard. Your daughter handled this situation like a pro and I’m sad it happened and glad that you were able to turn this into a teachable moment. Bravo for both of you!