It’s the last official weekend of Summer and I’m hardcore celebrating. And by hardcore celebrating, I mean lighting my @raedunn fall scented candles, binge watching Netflix and going to bed before 10pm. 🙌🏻 Remember when our nights didn’t even start until 10pm? I would dance all night, get back home with just enough time to shower and change before heading out to work. AND I could work a full 8 hours without ever feeling the fact that I hadn’t slept in more than 24 hours... Now I’m unable to function if someone wakes me up 15 minutes early. Getting old is awesome. .
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It’s the last official weekend...

I read something the other day on Facebook that said that the song that was number 1 on your 14th birthday, defines your life. I googled it, excited to find a message, a sign (I’m a sucker for that sort of thing). Instead, I found it was “Cream” by Prince. 😐 Cream? What does that mean? Ice cream? Coffee creamer? 
So I looked it up... and read the lyrics. "Cream" was meant to mean “cream of the crop”. There are lyrics like “everything you do is success” and my favorite part... “Do your dance
Why should you wait any longer?
Take a chance
It could only make you stronger”  Message received, Prince. Message received. 
What song was number one on your 14th birthday?
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This girl lost another tooth last week. I’ve been waiting for this toothless smile since she knocked her other one out last year. Unfortunately, it’s not going to last long because her adult tooth is already growing in 😭. (Zoom in to see) Yesterday I noticed both of her front-bottom teeth are peeking out behind her baby teeth too. Does anyone know how to slow down time. A button? A phone call? Maybe a time machine? My baby isn’t a baby anymore. Cue the tears. Have you celebrated any milestones with your kids recently?
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This girl lost another tooth...

I don’t get bouquets of flowers for no reason…. But I do appreciate the flowers that grow by our mailbox, like this one. And it made me realize something this morning.  I’m over it. 
I’m over comparing my life to other people’s lives on social media.
My house might not be as fancy. 
My wardrobe is not as expensive. 
I don't apply makeup as well or even at all most days.
I don’t have beautiful, long flowing hair.
I don’t drive a car that’s worth bragging about. 
We don’t go on lavish trips around the world. 
I don’t carry loads of money in designer handbags. 
Does that make me less of a person? 
Does that make me less of an influencer? 
No. It makes me a regular 40-something Mom who has chosen to open up and share our lives on social media.  It makes me someone who has built this hobby of photography and writing into a business that has solely supported my family for a year and a half. 
I’m proud of that. 
I’m proud that I’m not a follower.
I’m proud that I have worked hard for what I’ve achieved.
I’m proud of influencers like me who are unapologetically themselves.  What are you proud of? .
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I don’t get bouquets of...

F O U R T E E N. 
What do you give your oldest daughter when she turns 14? Well, when you’re me, you write her a poem and post it on the blog for the world to see. Head over to read it and let me know what you think. Then, help me wish Lucia the best 14th birthday ever 👇🏻👇🏻
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F O U R T...

It was just after Iyla's third birthday. She seemed to be on track, at least according to the pediatrician's checklist. She could follow instructions, name most familiar things, knew her first name, spoke in sentences and could carry a conversation, though she was hard to understand most of the time. We enrolled her in preschool that year and she was a little social butterfly. But as that school year went on, her teachers started to notice that she was struggling to get her words out. Most people that know Iyla today, have no idea that she was in speech therapy classes for two years. They have no idea that I fought it for almost 6 months and that I felt a tremendous guilt about it, because I thought it was my fault that she was stuttering as badly as she was. Today on the blog, I’m sharing the mistakes I made, in hopes that if you are ever in this situation, you take advantage of early intervention. .
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It was just after Iyla's...

There are two types of kids. 1) The kid who wants to eat the same thing every single day of the week, sometimes more than one time per day and 2) The kid who loves something one day and then hates it the next. #ad Which type of kid do you have? Or, are your kids like mine and bounce back and forth between the two? Either way, there is a way to make lunches more fun for kids. I'll let you in on a little secret... creating fun lunches is more fun for us too! This week, we created our first character, Inspector Caper Eyes. Head to the blog for more details! Plus, learn why we choose @JuicyJuiceUSA new better-for-you options, which are packed with functional benefits with juicy flavor that parents can feel great about serving to their kids.
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Remember I told you guys about our day dates now that the girls are #backtoschool? Well, we’ve really been enjoying them. #sponsored We walk, talk and laugh (a lot). Have you seen our IGTV yet? It’s a cheesy, beautiful video of what our relationship is like. I love that we’re able to connect and that we can make the time in our day to focus on our relationship and our health. Since we have three daughters, it’s even more important to go the extra mile when it comes to taking care of ourselves. These awesome @amazfit watches help us with that. I have the Amazfit Verge and Super Dad has the Amazfit Bip. They are lightweight, have app notifications and track your daily activity, your heart rate and so much more. The Amazfit Bip comes with a 30-day battery life and the Verge comes with Alexa built-in and you can make and receive phone calls through the watch. We can track our activity, sleep and heart rate and hold each other accountable for better decisions, when it comes to fitness and health. Visit to check them out and make sure to take advantage of the sale they’re currently having. No discount code necessary! What are you doing to get back to you? .
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Remember I told you guys...

Take me back to the time when all I had to do was color in the lines, learn my abc’s and take a long nap everyday. Why didn’t we appreciate what we had back then? .
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#AD Our girls love nature, so this weekend, we headed to a local nature preserve for a little animal watching, walking and family time. We always pack the essentials when we're heading out in this Florida heat, including snacks, sunblock and @smartwater, because we know how important it is to stay hydrated. We love smartwater® because it's purified water made using vapor distillation, similar to the way water is purified in nature. It's available in 700mL and 1L bottles. Now through 9/15, you can save $2.75 off at Sam's Club, so stock up! (limit 10 per member) #kidsfitness #fitnessfun #daddyslittlegirl #natureseekers #naturephotos #exercisemotivation #familyfitness #fitnessforlife #qualitytime #bestdad #bestdayever #bestfriendgoals #fatherdaughter #dadofgirls #smartwater #hydrate #hydration #drinkwater #marshalls #marshallsfinds

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Do I Need Permission to Sell My Rep Items?

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A friend of mine recently had a situation come up with a shop that we both worked with.  The shop owner saw that my friend was trying to sell an item in a B/S/T (Buy/Sell/Trade) group.  The shop owner messaged my friend and asked her to remove it and to send it back to her instead.  My friend messaged me to get my opinion on this because it seemed strange to her since she had provided the shop with images and promotion in exchange for the item.  I absolutely agreed.

Shortly after, I was messaged by the same shop owner, in a group DM and told that she didn’t want any of us selling any of her items that were given to us. She asked us to either donate them or send them back to her, so she could give them to her family members.  I was shocked.  Immediately I thought… I earned these items.  I worked hard to style, take pics, edit pics and promote the shop as often as possible. I know for a fact that I brought new customers to the shop because a couple of them were now on her team.  So apparently now, I’m supposed to ship the items back since I was finished with them?  Wasn’t this a trade for services? Weren’t these items my items to do with as I wish? Do I need permission to sell my rep items?

After some back and forth with the shop, I decided to ask what other reps and shops thought about this subject, in one of the Facebook Groups I am in.  It didn’t come as a surprise that the majority of comments (99.95%), from both shop owners and reps, were the same…. if you fulfilled your responsibilities as a brand rep, then that item is yours.

I specifically loved that the shop owner presence in that post was so strong.  One of the ones that stood out to me was Lucy, the owner of Babalus by Lucy.

“I have pretty strong opinions when it comes to having someone ‘rep’ for your brand. I have never done a rep search in the traditional sense, and I am personally completely against ever charging for my product at a discount in exchange for pictures. I reach out to moms that I find through social media, and approach them about trading clothes for photos. As a small shop, I could never have reached the levels of success that I have without the amazing photographs I have received, and continue to receive. I believe that to trade clothes for pics is the very least I can do for the amount that I benefit from their time and pictures. I don’t send product based on their personal style, I send products that I need photographed period. My brand has some very fun and colorful prints, so I know that not everyone will like every design. I am in no way offended, and actually encourage them to resell the items that I send them to turn it into $ for their families. I can’t say enough about the impacts that so many hard working mamas have had on both me personally and my shop, their support and encouragement keep me going and inspires me to create more.” – Lucy Conroy, owner Babalus by Lucy (IG: @babalusbylucy)

I love how much Lucy appreciates her team.  She wants those hard working Mamas to turn her items into money for their families, as a thank you for their hard work.  Could there be a better thank you? Reps don’t get paid (at least the majority of us).  We are doing all of this out of the goodness of our hearts. In order to keep buying from small shops and to avoid having to buy a storage unit to house all of our small shop goods, we tend to have to sell the things we’ve outgrown to make room and money for new items.  I would say 75% of that money made is put right back into small shops. If money’s tight, we may use a bit to pay a bill, but that’s ok, isn’t it?!  After all, brand repping is a trade. You should be able to do whatever you wish with the items you receive, as long as you’ve held up your end of the agreement with that shop. They are yours. You worked for them.

The majority of small shops understand that they wouldn’t have a business if it wasn’t for their rep team.  Reps and Enthusiasts work hard!  They are promoting small shops and bringing in business, new traffic to their website, and new followers to their social media.  A great brand rep is actually the most inexpensive but most effective form of marketing for a small shop!  No shop should take that for granted.

The best part about B/S/T groups is that people can purchase small shop items at a much lower cost. It’s a great way to try out a new shop and see if you like the quality, before paying full price on their website.  The majority of buyers will also take pictures and tag the shop, giving the shop extra exposure and new faces to repost.  All around, I think it’s a win, win for everyone!

Fellow rep, Amber (IG @magnoliasunflower) said it best, “The items aren’t ‘free’. It’s technically payment for services. An employer wouldn’t try to dictate what you do with your paycheck, right? Once you do the work and get paid, you can do whatever you want with your earnings.”

I couldn’t agree with Amber more! What a great analogy.

The only downside to B/S/T that I have heard from both reps and shops, was reps selling the items for more than retail cost or selling it immediately after they’ve taken pictures of it. I understand that and completely agree. I  know of a couple of rep accounts that take pictures of 3-5 outfits a day and immediately put those items up in a B/S/T group.  Small shop support is not a 15 minute job.  Wearing those clothes out in public, around your friends and family is the best way to get the word out about the shops.  Carry small shop cards with you, write down the name of the website for them… support shouldn’t stop on social media.  Plus, as some shops mention, occasionally they will need the item reshot.  What if you don’t have that item anymore because you sold it so quickly?  The majority of shop owners are ok with you selling the items, as long as you wait until your term is over (just in case). A more than reasonable request, if you ask me.

At the end of the day, it’s up to the shop to decide what they want from their team.  If you don’t agree with it, politely decline any position and find shops that have the same mindset as you do.  But… I would hope that shops understand that most reps are not doing this to make any sort of profit, but rather doing it so that they can keep supporting small shops without having to take out a 2nd mortgage on their home.  After all, brand repping is all about supporting one another.

In case you’re looking, my favorite B/S/T group is: Insta-Style Baby & Mama BST.

What do you think about this subject? Comment below and let me know your thoughts!  Have a topic you want me to talk about? Email us! Make sure to follow our daily small shop fashion on Instagram @thesmallfashionista and on our new Facebook page.


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  • thejessicacali
    September 11, 2017

    When I get reps to take pictures of products I make, I give them a large discount. They are still paying for the item, therefore it is completely theirs to do with what they wish! I would NEVER ask for an item back, especially one that they have paid THEIR money for!

    • TheSmallFashionista
      September 12, 2017

      Yes! Even with free items, it’s in exchange for service (photography and promotion).

  • Tracy Shane
    April 27, 2017

    Sometimes I’m just super annoyed that some topics even have to come up. I think at times some reps/shops forget that this is a relationship that should be a win/win for both parties. I’m a shop owner and a rep and I’m over these dictator/entitled relationships I’ve seen lately. This is a PARTNERSHIP. Support each other and I promise that it will come back to you tenfold.

  • Caitlin
    April 27, 2017

    I think you hit the nail straight on.

    Great read!!

    Plus it’s a cycle! And chances are the money is being used to buy more Small Shop items!!!

  • Ashley Webb
    April 27, 2017

    This is a great post! I agree whole heartedly! Plus if a shop doesn’t want their items sold, it should be stated before hand so that the reps know what they are getting into from the beginning.

  • Teresa Backer
    April 27, 2017

    Very Good read. I am a shop owner and I would never tell my reps and enthusiast that they could never sell the items that they get from me. I say if a shop owner does not want the rep to sell the item than the shop needs to pay for photos and promotion of the shop that the rep did for her because the reps time is valuable also.

  • Mandi Mendoza
    April 27, 2017

    I’m not sure this could have been written any better!

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