It’s the last official weekend of Summer and I’m hardcore celebrating. And by hardcore celebrating, I mean lighting my @raedunn fall scented candles, binge watching Netflix and going to bed before 10pm. 🙌🏻 Remember when our nights didn’t even start until 10pm? I would dance all night, get back home with just enough time to shower and change before heading out to work. AND I could work a full 8 hours without ever feeling the fact that I hadn’t slept in more than 24 hours... Now I’m unable to function if someone wakes me up 15 minutes early. Getting old is awesome. .
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It’s the last official weekend...

I read something the other day on Facebook that said that the song that was number 1 on your 14th birthday, defines your life. I googled it, excited to find a message, a sign (I’m a sucker for that sort of thing). Instead, I found it was “Cream” by Prince. 😐 Cream? What does that mean? Ice cream? Coffee creamer? 
So I looked it up... and read the lyrics. "Cream" was meant to mean “cream of the crop”. There are lyrics like “everything you do is success” and my favorite part... “Do your dance
Why should you wait any longer?
Take a chance
It could only make you stronger”  Message received, Prince. Message received. 
What song was number one on your 14th birthday?
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This girl lost another tooth last week. I’ve been waiting for this toothless smile since she knocked her other one out last year. Unfortunately, it’s not going to last long because her adult tooth is already growing in 😭. (Zoom in to see) Yesterday I noticed both of her front-bottom teeth are peeking out behind her baby teeth too. Does anyone know how to slow down time. A button? A phone call? Maybe a time machine? My baby isn’t a baby anymore. Cue the tears. Have you celebrated any milestones with your kids recently?
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This girl lost another tooth...

I don’t get bouquets of flowers for no reason…. But I do appreciate the flowers that grow by our mailbox, like this one. And it made me realize something this morning.  I’m over it. 
I’m over comparing my life to other people’s lives on social media.
My house might not be as fancy. 
My wardrobe is not as expensive. 
I don't apply makeup as well or even at all most days.
I don’t have beautiful, long flowing hair.
I don’t drive a car that’s worth bragging about. 
We don’t go on lavish trips around the world. 
I don’t carry loads of money in designer handbags. 
Does that make me less of a person? 
Does that make me less of an influencer? 
No. It makes me a regular 40-something Mom who has chosen to open up and share our lives on social media.  It makes me someone who has built this hobby of photography and writing into a business that has solely supported my family for a year and a half. 
I’m proud of that. 
I’m proud that I’m not a follower.
I’m proud that I have worked hard for what I’ve achieved.
I’m proud of influencers like me who are unapologetically themselves.  What are you proud of? .
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F O U R T E E N. 
What do you give your oldest daughter when she turns 14? Well, when you’re me, you write her a poem and post it on the blog for the world to see. Head over to read it and let me know what you think. Then, help me wish Lucia the best 14th birthday ever 👇🏻👇🏻
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It was just after Iyla's third birthday. She seemed to be on track, at least according to the pediatrician's checklist. She could follow instructions, name most familiar things, knew her first name, spoke in sentences and could carry a conversation, though she was hard to understand most of the time. We enrolled her in preschool that year and she was a little social butterfly. But as that school year went on, her teachers started to notice that she was struggling to get her words out. Most people that know Iyla today, have no idea that she was in speech therapy classes for two years. They have no idea that I fought it for almost 6 months and that I felt a tremendous guilt about it, because I thought it was my fault that she was stuttering as badly as she was. Today on the blog, I’m sharing the mistakes I made, in hopes that if you are ever in this situation, you take advantage of early intervention. .
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There are two types of kids. 1) The kid who wants to eat the same thing every single day of the week, sometimes more than one time per day and 2) The kid who loves something one day and then hates it the next. #ad Which type of kid do you have? Or, are your kids like mine and bounce back and forth between the two? Either way, there is a way to make lunches more fun for kids. I'll let you in on a little secret... creating fun lunches is more fun for us too! This week, we created our first character, Inspector Caper Eyes. Head to the blog for more details! Plus, learn why we choose @JuicyJuiceUSA new better-for-you options, which are packed with functional benefits with juicy flavor that parents can feel great about serving to their kids.
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Remember I told you guys about our day dates now that the girls are #backtoschool? Well, we’ve really been enjoying them. #sponsored We walk, talk and laugh (a lot). Have you seen our IGTV yet? It’s a cheesy, beautiful video of what our relationship is like. I love that we’re able to connect and that we can make the time in our day to focus on our relationship and our health. Since we have three daughters, it’s even more important to go the extra mile when it comes to taking care of ourselves. These awesome @amazfit watches help us with that. I have the Amazfit Verge and Super Dad has the Amazfit Bip. They are lightweight, have app notifications and track your daily activity, your heart rate and so much more. The Amazfit Bip comes with a 30-day battery life and the Verge comes with Alexa built-in and you can make and receive phone calls through the watch. We can track our activity, sleep and heart rate and hold each other accountable for better decisions, when it comes to fitness and health. Visit rcl.ink/UyB to check them out and make sure to take advantage of the sale they’re currently having. No discount code necessary! What are you doing to get back to you? .
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Remember I told you guys...

Take me back to the time when all I had to do was color in the lines, learn my abc’s and take a long nap everyday. Why didn’t we appreciate what we had back then? .
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#AD Our girls love nature, so this weekend, we headed to a local nature preserve for a little animal watching, walking and family time. We always pack the essentials when we're heading out in this Florida heat, including snacks, sunblock and @smartwater, because we know how important it is to stay hydrated. We love smartwater® because it's purified water made using vapor distillation, similar to the way water is purified in nature. It's available in 700mL and 1L bottles. Now through 9/15, you can save $2.75 off at Sam's Club, so stock up! (limit 10 per member) https://lnk2.io/abYC5gD #kidsfitness #fitnessfun #daddyslittlegirl #natureseekers #naturephotos #exercisemotivation #familyfitness #fitnessforlife #qualitytime #bestdad #bestdayever #bestfriendgoals #fatherdaughter #dadofgirls #smartwater #hydrate #hydration #drinkwater #marshalls #marshallsfinds

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If You Don’t Have Anything Nice To Say…

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Cyberbullying…. it’s real, it’s everywhere, but most of all, it’s annoying.  People seem to think that just because they are sitting behind a computer or a cell phone, that they can say whatever they want, regardless of the feelings it may hurt and the damage it might do.  I’m over it… especially in the small shop community that I love.

Growing up, I was taught the same thing, over and over again… If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.  Maybe I’m naive, but I figured that was something that was taught in every household.  It seems nowadays people thrive on attention, even if it’s negative, maybe even more so when it’s negative.  Y’all, our ancestors are turning over in their graves right now.  This is not how they raised us. Stop being a jerk!

I understand that social media is public.  By putting pictures of ourselves and our kids in a public place, we are opening ourselves up to criticism (welcomed or not).  I understand that we made the decision to put these pictures out there for the world to see.  What I don’t understand is how people think that it’s ok for them to accuse someone of being an unfit mother or dressing their child “inappropriately”…. Who are you to decide what is appropriate and what isn’t, when it’s not your own child? You are judging them based on one picture.  How ridiculous is that?!

Driving home this morning, I heard on the radio that Snooki (Nicole Polizzi) was being criticized on social media for putting makeup on her 2 year old for her dance recital.  She wound up turning off comments because she just didn’t want to hear from the trolls who were telling her how to be a good Mom.  Newsflash people… my kids have been dancing for years and in our studio, makeup is required for recitals.  Do you think she was just putting mascara on her two year old to take her out to the park?! And even if she was, is that any of your business?! Just because she’s a celeb and she shares her life with us, doesn’t give you the right to be rude. If she was standing in front of you would you say those things?! Probably not…. you’d just be asking her for an autograph and a selfie. Instead of ridiculing her, why not commend her on the life she has built for her kids… her success….

And while celebs get hit with it the hardest, it’s not something that any of us can escape.  I’ve watched small shops and brand reps get attacked for no good reason.  Let me be completely real here…. if you stumble upon a picture that you don’t like because the outfit isn’t something you’d put on your child, or a mama is breastfeeding her baby or you are just having a bad day…. keep your negative thoughts to yourself.  When we post pictures of ourselves or our children, we aren’t doing it to get our feelings hurt.  We deal with enough on a daily basis.  Don’t ruin someone’s day. If you HAVE TO say something, say it out loud, to yourself and then move on to the next picture on your feed.  It’s that simple.  Spreading hate and negativity will never get you any respect.  All it will do is get you blocked and reported.

Let’s get back to basics kids… if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.  Out loud… on social media… anywhere.  Maybe if we practiced more positivity in our daily routine, we would all live happier lives.  Set a good example for your children.  They are watching, they are listening and they will act the same way, whether it’s right or wrong.  I choose to teach my girls that all people are beautiful, no matter their size, their color, their religion or their beliefs.  They will grow up to respect others feelings and give them a hug as opposed to a kick in the back.  They will help them up if they fall, instead of laughing at them.  Focus on your kids and being the best parent you can be before you criticize someone else for what you think they are doing right or wrong.  It’s that simple.

What do you think about cyberbullying? Have you been a victim? Comment below and let me know your thoughts!  Have a topic you want me to talk about? Email us! Make sure to check out the shops featured in this post and follow our daily small shop fashion on Instagram @thesmallfashionista and on our new Facebook page.

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  • Patty
    May 15, 2017

    I couldn’t agree more! Very well said. And that’s ridiculous about the make up for a dance recital … these people commenting obviously have never put their children in dance or gymnastics because you have to put make up on them so their faces don’t disappear in the lights. Either way like you said and I was taught growing up as well if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say it at all

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