Growing up, I was incredibly shy. When I was 12, I was moved from private to public school and for the first time, since I was a toddler, had to make new friends. #ad While 8th grade prepared me a bit, high school was even harder since I only knew a handful of people there. I realized that in order to gain the confidence I was seriously lacking, I needed to become a part of something bigger than me. I tried out and made our high school’s dance team, the Titanaires, in 9th grade. Suddenly, that shy girl found herself. I continued to dance throughout high school and discovered the power of teamwork.  We all walked out onto that field the same, no matter how skilled we were, what we looked like or what our home life was like. We came together as a family and put on a show that always had the fans in the bleachers cheering. Being a Titanaire changed me. 20+ years later, I’m still really good friends with a number of my teammates. Now, as the Mother of three girls, I always encourage them to find something they love, practice and become a part of something that will change their lives as it did mine. Whether it’s volleyball, gymnastics, dance or soccer, I watch my girls transform each and every time they practice, perform or play. Did you know that between the ages of 12 and 13, the number of girls who say they’re afraid to fail increases by 150%? By age 14, girls drop out of sports at twice the rate of boys. That’s why @Athleta is committed to helping keep girls in the game. That’s the #PowerofShe.  #AthletaGirl #girlempowerment #girlsquad #girlsrock #womenathletes #womenempowered #womenempowerment #girlmama #girlmom #gymnastics #gymnasticslife #handstand #handstandpractice #novahighschool #novatitans #novatitanalumni #titanaire #letsgotitans

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Yesterday, I posted my deepest, darkest secret on my blog. It look me 24 hours to get the nerve to share it on here. I’ve been writing that post for a while. It probably didn’t go live the day I intended it to and it might disappear at some point. But enough is enough. Time for me to put my big girl panties on and stop lying to myself and everyone else. I hope you won’t think any different of me or judge me in any way. I’m still the same person, I’m just not pretending anymore. .
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Thinking back to last month and our stay in that cute little airbnb, it makes me so grateful for the opportunity to blog full-time. Not only do I get to work closely with companies that I love, but occasionally I get the opportunity to take our family on a little, but much needed vacation. It really is the best job I’ve ever had. Today on the blog, I’m continuing my series for bloggers and influencers and discussing what might be the scariest part of this job… pitching companies and applying to campaigns. Head over and check out my suggestions to nail those pitches. I look forward to hearing your thoughts! .
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Today I had a plan. Wake up early, get the girls ready for their first day of school and then take the perfect first day of school picture to post on Instagram, where I would talk about how bittersweet it is to watch my girls grow up into these incredible young women. 
But things don’t always go as we plan. Instead, Falynn and Iyla woke up at 3:30am, got ready for school and then came downstairs at 5:00am to let us know they were ready. 5:00am... two and a half hours before they actually needed to be at school. I rolled myself out of bed at around 6:50am, Super Dad made me some coffee and I quickly shooed them outside so I could take a picture and realized that Falynn was in a long sleeved shirt, a jacket, jeans and old sneakers. I’m pretty sure her hair wasn’t brushed either. Lucia wasn’t awake yet so it would be the first year without a first day of school picture of all three of them. 😫 Whatever. I was tired. So I quickly took a picture (swipe to see) and got them off to school. Lucia woke up late and I couldn’t take a picture of her because my camera lens kept fogging up. When we walked back into the house, the dog escaped, making her even later. 🤦🏻‍♀️ And my coffee’s cold. Anyway, since I couldn’t get the perfect first day of school picture, I hope you enjoy this shot of the girls and Super Dad in their @swimzip.
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Social Media – An Escape or a Platform of Lies?

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This morning I woke up, looking flawless, kissed my husband and stepped out of bed, overjoyed to start another day. As I walked through my immaculate home, I heard my children, already dressed and ready for school, talking about how much they loved one another. I cooked them a healthy breakfast and prepared their lunches in bento boxes, with fun shapes and clever notes. I dropped them off at school, where they are star students, always get honor roll and never get in trouble. I arrived back to my home office, where my husband had already prepared my coffee in a mug with a woman-empowering saying on it and got my mom-boss on. I sipped my coffee, made reservations for our next over-the-top vacation and dreamt about how perfect my life really is. If you were to scroll through my social media accounts, that’s probably what you think my days are like. Because like most of us, I’m not telling the whole truth through my pictures and posts. I’m only telling half of the story.

When’s the last time you were completely honest on social media? I’m not talking about your political views, how much your kids mean to you or telling everyone how much you enjoyed your last meal… I’m talking about being honest about your everyday life. I hate to tell you this, but there’s a 99% chance that social media has made you into a liar. Or, at the very least, someone who omits much of the truth.

Social media has become a place where we show off the good and leave out the heartache, the mess and the struggles. We post pictures of our beautiful kids, our perfect homes and our fancy vacations but in reality, behind the scenes, there is so much you don’t see.  The other side of our home is a mess, our kids never listen and we are yelling more than we’d care to admit.  To the outside world, we are living the perfect life. We can custom design how we want people to think we are living, because that’s what social media has become. Likes and views have become our validation.

When we get in front of the camera, we are smiling, laughing and having the time of our lives. But there are days when we feel sad and nothing can go right, no matter what we do. Our kids won’t listen, our home is a mess, we are behind on our bills and we may even be having marital problems.  No matter how tough life gets, we still go out of our way to show everyone how perfect we want them to think we really are. Because these days it doesn’t matter what life is really like, it matters how people think you are living.

I don’t care how much money you make, or how perfect your life may seem, none of us are as perfect as we portray through social media. Our lives are chaotic, we have issues and the majority of us just don’t talk about them. We’ve learned to manipulate angles to make ourselves and our home look better than they really are. We live to pretend.

Social media will never change because it’s our escape. The fact is, we don’t want to read about people’s marital problems, or see pictures of their messy homes. We want to see the fantasy of how our lives could be. Sadly, social media has given us a platform to create an image that we can probably never attain.  It’s more about who is living the better life, or who can put on the best show.

So what does our future look like if we keep going on like this? I think first, we need to stop living online and start living our lives. Put the phone down. Don’t worry about how many likes or views you get, but instead, enjoy the moment. Don’t be afraid to talk about your problems with those you love and trust. They won’t think less of you.  In fact, you may find that they need to talk about something as well. Keeping things bottled up and pretending all the time is not going to make your life better. Living your life and enjoying what you do have, will.

What are your feelings on social media? Comment below and let me know!

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  • Catalina
    May 31, 2019

    I don’t think that social media is a liar, it can’t tell the whole story. Only a part of it….

  • Thuy
    May 31, 2019

    It’s just everyone’s highlight reel and what they want you to see. Social media can be used responsibly, but people have to stop stressing too much over it.

  • Rachel
    May 30, 2019

    I try to keep my social media somewhat honest but I still don’t share the woes or problems. I do realize it is a facade.

  • Gervin Khan
    May 30, 2019

    I really enjoy using social media because I was having to connect with my loved ones but I hate it sometimes because others are using to hurt and to do bad things to someone.

  • Tomi
    May 30, 2019

    I have a love hate relationship with social media. I love being able to connect with family, friends and loved ones all at once but I hate seeing fake stuff

  • Lisa Favre
    May 30, 2019

    I only showcase the best angle of things on social media – totally guilty of it. But you’re right, it’ll never change because this is what people long for when they’re browsing!

  • Cathy Mini
    May 30, 2019

    I think both cos it’s depends on how you manage or control the social media for helping your self to make everything easy.

  • Net U.
    May 29, 2019

    It’s definitely both for me too, a love and hate thing. I use it for business but I don’t post everything about my life and family.

  • Theresa
    May 29, 2019

    Very rarely will you see me post something not business related on social media. When I do post something personal, like to my facebook, I almost always make it lighthearted and joking, poking fun at myself or my family. I don’t live a perfect life and don’t want to give the impression that I do. If others need to do that to feel good about themselves, it’s not my place to judge, it’s just not something you’re going to catch me doing.

  • Melanie
    May 29, 2019

    Social media is a vicious cycle. But I agree that everyone only shows what they want everyone else to see.

  • Lisa Martin
    May 29, 2019

    I am guilty of only showing the “best side” on social media. I have really tried lately to keep my phone out of reach during the day though, that way I’m not spending so much time investing into the part of their lives that others post and instead focus on my own.

  • Pam
    May 29, 2019

    I definitely am guilty of putting my best foot forward on social media and ignoring my struggles. But I have also made amazing friends on social media.

  • Ashley
    May 29, 2019

    It can def be a bit of both, depending on how you use it. I love it and hate it some days.

  • Amber Myers
    May 29, 2019

    Oh yeah, you can tell the people that hide behind perfection. I personally find it boring. I like to show the mess and the real side of parenting. Not everything is perfect or clean. My house usually has a pile of crap in a corner, and I’ll show that sometimes to remind people it’s okay.

  • Tasheena
    May 29, 2019

    My personal social media accounts (aside from blogging) are for being present and staying connected with friends/family.

  • Jeanette
    May 29, 2019

    I think there’s a little of both. A lot of times on social media you only show the perfect side of you and I think that makes people jealous. I think that is a danger in itself. On the other end I think I also it’s a good way to let out some of the emotions that you have that maybe you just don’t want to say in real life.

  • Alli Smith
    May 29, 2019

    For me, social media (aside from the blogging aspect) is all about keeping up with old friends from my hometown. I just want to see photos of their kids, grandkids, and pets. I don’t air my dirty laundry, but I do roll my eyes so often that I’m surprised they haven’t stuck like that (according to my mom back in the day). Most of my friends are down-to-earth and are the real deal.

  • robin rue
    May 29, 2019

    I totally get it and while I am “real” on social media – sometimes it takes me 100 times to get the photo I want. I don’t believe most of what I see though.

  • Natalie
    May 29, 2019

    I can definitely agree that much is omitted, especially the not so uplifting or negative things happening in our lives. I personally prefer sharing the positives and like to inspire people to try something new.

  • Eric kay
    October 10, 2018

    I see so many people, including my wife struggle with social media jealousy. it’s hard not to be jealous sometimes though.

  • stacey
    October 4, 2018

    This made me smirk because I was telling someone this a few days ago. I saw a friends post about how much she was in love with her hubby, knowing we all know they aren’t happy at all.

  • Becca Wilson
    October 4, 2018

    Social media is definitely not a full portrayal of someone’s life. So many of us want to only share our really great moments – but everyone has those down moments.

  • Trina
    October 4, 2018

    I have a love-hate relationship with social media. As a homebody and introvert, I love being able to keep up with friends and family without having to put on pants lol. But as an adult I find myself trying to keep up with the Jones’ so to speak because everyone’s house, family, and marriage seems so perfect through a screen, and then all of a sudden you hear so and so lost their home or, so and so is getting a divorce and its a wake up call about how fake social media can be.

  • Chin chin
    October 4, 2018

    I don’t share a lot on my social media accounts, but when I do I make sure it’s the truth. There are a lot of fake news out there already.

  • Dr. K. Lee Banks
    October 3, 2018

    I think we all need to be cautious and exercise wisdom with how much we share on social media. The Internet has a long memory and even things we think we have deleted can be accessed by those who are technically savvy and who have nefarious intentions. I certainly believe in being honest, but not necessarily airing all our “dirty laundry,” sharing too much personal information, OR pretending we’re something we’re not (perfect). I read another blog post earlier today about the “imposter” syndrome online and I think that certainly fits the way some people behave.

  • Sundeep
    October 3, 2018

    For me its like 50-50 sometimes it looks fake, sometimes it looks real. We are totally hooked on to your blog. No wonder we are coming back again and again for more info.

  • Ty @ TravelTasTily
    October 2, 2018

    I use to love social media but I got tired of reading everyone’s perfect life and all of the quotes people know they don’t follow.

  • adriana
    October 2, 2018

    This is such a great read! There really are so many impacts of social media both positive and negative. So important to try and find a happy medium!

  • K.A. Wypych
    October 2, 2018

    Love this! I wish we could all be vulnerable enough to show our true selves!

  • Heather
    October 2, 2018

    I totally agree! Social media can be so disheartening because everyone looks so perfect and happy, but no one (myself included) is signing up to be the one to show what reality is like!

  • Sara Welch
    October 2, 2018

    There really are two sides to the coin. It is a great tool when used correctly by everyone!

  • ;aura dove
    October 2, 2018

    I think social media has negatives and postives. I love to scroll through my feed and see beautiful pictures, but I also know that it just a snippet of someones life. We are all guilty of sharing the highlights.

  • Christa
    October 2, 2018

    The thing I love about social media is how much we can customize our experience. I choose who I see in my feed, and I choose people who are honest and add value to my life.

  • Nancy at Whispered Inspirations
    October 2, 2018

    I think social media is what you make it. I choose to use it as a platform to share my life, the beautiful parts of life… I do step away whenever I can to enjoy life in the moment.

  • Lynndee
    October 2, 2018

    There is no such thing as a perfect life. All of us have our ups and downs, have our own problems or issues to deal with everyday. For me, you don’t have to share everything for the whole world to see. And it’s not faking it either. It’s a choice that you have to make. And we all have our own choices.

  • Shannan P
    October 2, 2018

    I think with social media you have to go into it with the idea that you have to take everything with a grain of salt and we have to teach our kids the same thing. I recently had a conversation with my kids about the YouTubers that they watch and how much of what they do is simply for the camera. You just have to try to keep perspective.

  • Ruth I
    October 2, 2018

    I agree with some points. I honestly don’t post much about my life on social media. But I appreciate those who share their lives as I get some encouragement from their achievements.

  • Ashley
    October 2, 2018

    I think it is both. Depending on who it is and what they are saying lol

  • Lisa Favre
    October 2, 2018

    I think it’s a good way to escape and read about happy things: people’s achievements, accomplishments, etc. So long as we don’t start comparing ourselves to others (which can be hard not to do sometimes!), we’re good!

  • Justine
    October 2, 2018

    I definitely think this is an interesting perspective. For sure I agree that we should put our phones down more and live life. However, I don’t necessarily think it’s lying to not share everything online. I do think if we outright say “everything is perfect and wonderful and this and that” and it’s not then yes, that’s lying. But I view social media as a way to spread good in the world and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being mindful of the things we do and don’t share, you know? I definitely loved your thoughts on this though!

  • cathy mini
    October 2, 2018

    social medias is one of the best to express our lives specially to the person far away to us..

  • Marissa
    October 1, 2018

    I definitely agree, even though it’s my job to be on social media it can be hard mentally sometimes!

  • Tom
    October 1, 2018

    It’s only natural to show off your achievements every now and then, but if done on social then your platform can quickly appear to be a stage for you to boast! Even if you are genuinely wanting to just share some joy!

  • Jessica Taylor
    October 1, 2018

    I totally agree. Social media has a way of portraying everyone as perfect!

  • Brittany Vantrease
    October 1, 2018

    I don’t think everyone on social media is false. I’ve seen plenty of people talk about their heartbreaks, frustrations, and troubles. A lot of my friends ask for prayer and I do that too. These people, after all are my friends, my family, and my church family, why would we want to lie to each other?

    • Heather Castillo
      October 1, 2018

      I’m not saying they are 100% false, I’m saying that most people don’t show the whole story.

  • Amanda
    October 1, 2018

    I definitely struggle with this. I feel so refreshed when I take time off of Instagram, but at the same time I love connecting with people and making great relationships thanks to platforms like Instagram.

  • Crystal
    October 1, 2018

    Honestly if I didn’t blog I wouldn’t even bother being on social media. I use it for business and networking but am looking forward to the day when I will no longer need it! I know it’s nice to stay in touch with other people but honestly I just have enough stuff in my own family to take care of!

  • Monidipa Dutta
    October 1, 2018

    Social media enhances our connectivity. … Research presented in the journal The British Psychological Society found that students who experience low self-esteem can take advantage of social media and its capability to bond them with others in order to pull themselves up from slumps in their mood.

    • Heather Castillo
      October 1, 2018

      Yes, but it’s also stopping them from trying to make real world connections and living their lives. I’ve seen that in my kids. Moderation is key.

  • Lou
    October 1, 2018

    Social media is a bit of both for me. But, too much of it gives me crazy anxiety, the feeling of I’m not doing enough seeing everyone posting these beautiful pictures of themselves always doing fun things, so I give myself breaks from it often.

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