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Stop the Small Shop Shaming!

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It’s something that I see on a daily basis and I just couldn’t keep my mouth shut any longer.  Shops and Reps shaming small shops.  You may have seen it, you may have been a part of it, you may have not wanted to get involved, but if you get anything out of reading this, I hope you understand that in most cases, it’s wrong and it should stop. We are not in high school, we aren’t the mean girls trying to make the less popular girls cry.  We are all adults and we should be respectful of one another.

We are constantly participating in movements to promote kindness, love and anti-bullying, yet we are participating in things that go against all of that.  It’s time to re-evaluate our actions and what type of example we are setting as parents.

BUYING WHOLESALE AND RESELLING:  There are actually groups on FB dedicated to shaming shops that don’t hand make their items.  There are lists and bash-fests (for lack of a better word), going on in these groups.  People are urging others to unfollow, block and report these shops on IG.  And while there are the few that are absolutely trying to fool their customers, cheat their customers or just be flat out shady, the majority of these small shop owners are just trying to support their family and are being attacked for no reason or for a reason that they didn’t even know was wrong.  If you are familiar with retail, you understand that big chains are buying from the designer or manufacturer and selling them for more than they paid.  There are small businesses that do this as well.  For whatever reason, they are unable to hand make items. Maybe they don’t know how to sew, don’t have the funds to buy the machinery needed or just don’t have the time.  Maybe they don’t realize that claiming something is handmade is wrong if they aren’t the one that is hand making them. Maybe no one told them.  Imagine you are a Mom who can’t work because of daycare, medical or other issues or maybe you are in need of extra money and you have taken the leap to start up a business that you can run from your home.  You spend hours searching for the perfect items for your shop, spend money on inventory and work hard to advertise your business.  And then… out of nowhere, you are attacked.  You have no idea why.  Now you are struggling to make back the money you spent because people are shaming you and your shop on social media.  Sounds pretty crappy when you look at it that way, doesn’t it?

DESIGN COPIERS: We all know that many t-shirt shops think that they own a saying because they put it on a shirt first.  I’m not talking about the design itself and I’m not talking about trademarked sayings as that is 100% wrong and should not be done… I’m talking about a word, a popular saying, song lyrics or a movie quote that more than one person thought would look great on a shirt.  They work on their design, they spend the money printing or cutting/adding vinyl and then they announce their new creation and are attacked by other small shops or reps for “copying”.  These owners are then forced to defend themselves and get past the social media bullying that occurs because others assumed that they were being deceitful.  What if this shop had never even seen the other design? What if they had never even heard of the shop that is accusing them?  What if they are being falsely accused because no one bothered to check out the story but instead, jumped on the bashing bandwagon?   And what about those that are purchasing design files on Etsy and have no clue that these may be stolen designs?  Should they have asked or done a search? Sure. But most people believe that people are honest and trust that a shop on Etsy wouldn’t rip off another shop’s design.  Are two shops using the same fabric and are both selling similar style pants?  Does that make one a copycat?  Most shops that sew their own clothing use patterns, and most are buying from the same fabric shops, so it’s possible that it’s just a coincidence. Before you attack, ask… nicely! Give them the benefit of the doubt.

DELAY IN SHIPMENT: I’m sure we have all been in a situation where an item was supposed to be shipped by a certain date and a week or two or longer have passed.  I personally see multiple posts like this, badmouthing the shop in Facebook groups, to thousands of people and the first question asked is always, “Have you contacted the shop”?  You would be surprised how many people answer “No, not yet, I just wanted to see if anyone else has had a similar experience with this particular shop.”  Let’s think about this.  Did your post just damage the credibility of a shop?  Do you know what the situation is with this particular shop owner?  Do they have a sick child?  Did they have a death in the family? Are they moving?  Are they on a family vacation?  Are they going through personal issues right now that can’t be avoided?  If you don’t ask, don’t assume.  We are all human. We all have things in our lives that happen unexpectedly.  Will there be shops that will give you every excuse in the book? Sure!  But you, as the customer, should make an effort to contact that shop and get the details before you post anything about them on social media.  If you have and you aren’t satisfied, then go through the steps to get your money back.  If you feel like that shop is running a scam (after you have done your research), then it’s ok to warn others.  Just don’t do it blindly or viciously.  You could do serious damage in a situation that is already painful for them.

The next time you come across a post bashing another shop, try to look at it from all angles. Don’t jump to conclusions.  Don’t automatically block or report that shop just because someone told you to.  Think about the person on the other end of this attack.  What are they going through in their life?  What could happen to that shop owner as a result of this bashing?  If that shop has stolen money or designs or pictures of your children, then by all means, they deserve to be spoken to (privately first), but no one deserves to be blind sided and attacked on social media. No one.

It’s ok to stick up for a small shop you love but please don’t assume anything until you have the facts. We are all so quick to judge these days and believe everything we read on social media, but the sad truth is that there are people out there that like to start drama and feed off of it.  There are also people out there that are trying to bring down shops that they consider “competition”.  Please remember that your actions can damage a reputation so quickly.  Support one another. Give people the benefit of the doubt and remember, everyone is innocent until proven guilty, not the other way around.

You may have seen it or been a part of it, but if you get anything out of reading this, I hope you understand that in most cases, small shop shaming is wrong.

XOXO
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  • Kasey
    June 19, 2019

    I always try to go to the shop owner if I have any problems! I love supporting small shops when I can

  • rika
    June 18, 2019

    This is a great post! I would never do this, if I don’t like about something, I will contact the seller immediately.

  • Terri Steffes
    June 18, 2019

    I haven’t had any experiences like this. I shop small in my own neighborhood and I love the relationships I have built. This is the way I like to do business.

  • Lynndee
    June 18, 2019

    With all honesty, I’ve never seen Shops and Reps shaming small shops. Public shaming is not good at all. Businesses should support each other, small or big.

  • Kathy
    June 18, 2019

    I completely agree with you here. I think it’s horrible when people shame like this. No need for any of that at all.

  • Roch
    June 18, 2019

    I think there’s so many design copiers and this applies not only in shirts but also in other works as well — like development codes, scripts, and documents. People who put effort to make the original should be rewarded and acknowledged at the least.

  • Jeni Hawkins
    June 18, 2019

    Small shops are sometimes losing customers and business because of this. It honestly makes my heart break into pieces. This must be stopped.

  • Ruth I
    June 18, 2019

    I hate small shop shaming. It makes me feel disgusted when I see people shaming small shops online. This has opened my eyes to many things as well.

  • Melanie
    June 17, 2019

    I find it crazy that adults would do this. It is terrible. I have noticed this online some, and I always feel badly for the shop owner.

  • Tasheena
    June 17, 2019

    I just don’t entertain this type of stuff. It’s sad, we all want to make a living doing what we love, and people can be really mean. It’s really scary how mean people can be behind their phones and computers…

  • Sarah Bailey
    June 17, 2019

    I hate it when I see oh my gosh I have been waiting 7 days for my hand crafted item..

    It’s like wait what?

    I’m not even a small shop and even I know you want quality YOU WAIT!

  • Jeanette
    June 17, 2019

    What a great posts! I think that a lot of people need to hear about this! I love what you said here!

  • Amber Myers
    June 17, 2019

    Oh yeah, I happen to love small shops, so it does irk me when I see people being cruel towards them. For example, I shop on Etsy often, and I always try to be understanding if things come up. Granted, if communication stops and I haven’t gotten my shipment, then I get cranky, but for the most part I’ve always had great luck with small businesses and their products are usually better than the larger chains.

  • Jenn @ EngineerMommy
    June 17, 2019

    This is an important reminder to withhold judgment until all the facts are clearly laid out. I know so many small shop owners who work sooo hard every day.

  • Rena
    June 17, 2019

    I had never heard of this before but as a small business, this definitely concerns me. I will be watching for it from now on.

  • cait
    June 17, 2019

    yes yes yes i love this- so many shops are just run by one person who is doing the best they can- if we had a more people helpers it’d be a different story right- def agree to stop shaming too!

  • Melissa Chapman
    June 17, 2019

    I support the small stores they keep this country going. I know it is tough to compete with the chains but they offer services and products that are not in the big chain stores.

  • Alli Smith
    June 17, 2019

    I don’t ever bash a small shop (or any shop) online. If I have a problem, I just contact the shop. For instance, I ordered a swimsuit coverup from a company I saw on FB back in April. It arrived in June – as soon as I returned home from the beach. 🙂 I didn’t take to FB to shame them. I sent them a message.

  • Kathryn Macomber
    March 17, 2017

    You are so beautifully even-handed writing this post. I’m so thankful that you chose to wrote about this topic. This world does need more kindness and this is a good reminder to be kind first as you never know what someone else is dealing with.

  • Veronica Harmonica
    March 17, 2017

    You are rad! <3

  • hpcroshon4
    March 17, 2017

    Great post! I admit I use to be skeptical of a lot of shops but reading this had shifted my view on things a lot more! Thank you!

  • Tracy Shane
    March 16, 2017

    Well said. I see so much of this and worse on a daily basis. I honestly think that like you said the majority of the people out there have good intentions. In addition to the reputations of shops at stake with this behavior is the reputation of reps when shop owners have conflicts with customers and reps and blast about them and their “stupidity” in posts in different groups. Even if its 1000% true using these situations as entertainment value and attention is just sad.

  • Erica Jones
    March 16, 2017

    OMG, where was this post when I first opened and bought wholesale? I was bashed, shamed and even spent hours of crying after a handful of reps decided to “cancel” because they only support handmade. When I stressed the point, that buying from our beloved Target isn’t exactly supporting the small shop community, but even more importantly, I wasn’t over charging, I wasn’t lying and the difference between me and just buying from ALiexpress was that I spent countless hours vetting my wholesalers and spent good money on samples to make sure I was selling a quality production and not just a cheap knockoff: I was told, I “just don’t get it” and I’m “what’s wrong with the community.” Somehow no matter how much I tried to be a “better vendor” I was knocked -down until I was knocked out of the game once my IG page was hacked. That was the last straw. After such, I closed my site, and began to sew. I’ve wanted to sew for years and had even bought a couple of machines but I never knew what to make (or how to make it). But this time I was driven. Even though I re-opened with my handmade items, I still have not regained my followers from my hacked IG page or my investment in the wholesale items.

    I have had some amazing Reps who I would basically make anything for at cost because they believed in me. But that is a small handful. Even so, I continue to support small shops that I connect with handmade or otherwise. I come from a school of MOMS STICK TOGETHER. Yes, breast is best if its possible but Fed is the only thing that matters. Gluten free is cool, if you even know what that means. Limited screen time sounds great until you haven’t taken a shower since… (don’t judge me) and handmade items are awesome and so unique and come with an amazing back story… But retail and wholesale items are often pretty adorable and just fine for everyday wear. It’s the MOM on the other end of that sale who means more than the outfit that wont even fit my lil monster in four months (if I’m lucky).

    But that’s my take on it. I’m just a mom of three amazing unicorns disguised as sticky monsters. What do I know?

    Erica P Jones
    instagram.com/gibabyco
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    instagram.com/gisele_st.james
    instagram.com/phoenix_parkerjones

  • mrssunnyames
    March 16, 2017

    This is a great way to put it. I’m all for supporting both handmade of handpicked items. I know some people who look at me and have accused me even of stealing a design, when all it was is a custom request that got a lot of love and was selling. I’m reasonably priced, so I see how I may be the better option for some moms. I was disappointed for being told I have no manners when on my heart, all I’m doing was help.

    I have countless times referred people over to other shops, help with measurements or even general patterns and have seen my designs bought only to be torn apart to imitate it. What did I do? I pushed forward, because everyone deserves their bread and butter.

    I would never shame another woman for trying to feed her children but I am not an advocate for stores that scams, rips off or used these wonderful reps.

    Great post!

  • AmandaCMcNeil
    March 16, 2017

    Great post! Thanks for sharing – especially the part about being understanding due to shipment delays. So many shops are run by just one mama trying her best.

    Love, SewChicStudio
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