🕸Last chance!!🕸Don’t miss out on your chance for $500 PayPal CASH!🕷
•
To Enter:
1. L I K E this post!
2. G O  TO @loopgifting for next steps- it literally only takes 30 seconds!🙌🏻🙌🏻
3. ANSWER below for a better chance: WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE MOVIE OR SNACK?🎥🍿 •
This will run from 10/20/19 to 10/22/19. Result will be announced on 10/23/19 by 9:00 pm est. This in no way sponsored, administered, or associated with Instagram, Inc or any of the brands involved. By entering, entrants confirm they are at least 18 years of age, release Instagram of responsibility, and agree to Instagram's terms of use.
. .
#falldecorating #woodsandwhites #housetohome #designtrends #cottagesandbungalows #falldecor #inmydomaine #howyouhome #blogger #designhomewithfriends #whiteandbright #ltkstylealert #modernfarmhouse #howihaven #hobbylobbyfinds #farmhousedecor #bhghome #inspire_me_home_decor  #livingroomsofinstagram #interior123  #wiwtoday #stylehunters #stylelook #designtractor #kitchensofinstagram #styledaily #livingroom

🕸Last chance!!🕸Don’t miss out on...

As a mother of three daughters, it’s so important for me to teach my girls about strong, talented women who were able to turn their dreams into success. I love that Lucia chose to honor Frida Kahlo and her own Hispanic heritage by choosing this particular costume as one of her Halloween looks. I was even more pleasantly surprised that she was able to put together this DIY Frida Kahlo costume for under $5! Head to our blog to find out how. Have you ever made your own costume? .
.
.  #halloween #halloweencostume #halloween🎃 #diycostume #diyhalloweencostume #thriftstorefinds #thrifting #thrift #thrifted #diycrafts #diyideas #doityourself #halloweencostumes #halloweencostumeideas #costumeparty #costumedesign #costume #thriftshop #thriftstore #thriftfinds #thrifty #fridakahlo #fridakahlocostume

As a mother of three...

If this isn’t perfect for Halloween, I don’t know what is 🤷🏻‍♀️🤣
.
.
.
#letterboardquotes #letterboard #letterboards #letterboardlove #letterboardfun #farmhouselove #farmhousestyle #letterboardquote #magnoliastyle #howyouhome #makehomeyours #pocketofmyhome #modernfarmhousestyle #modernfarmhousedecor #ighome #modernfarmhouse #howwedwell #homegoodsfinds #raedunnfinds #raedunn #homegoods #raedunnhalloween #targetfinds #targetdeals #targetdoesitagain #homegoodshappy #tjmaxxfinds #tjmaxx #halloweendecor #halloweenfun

If this isn’t perfect for...

Want to make some fun treats for your kids but don't have hours or a big budget to do it? Or, do your kids want to have some fun in the kitchen and you don't want to deal with a huge mess? These spider cookie treats are made of just 4 ingredients that are prepackaged and easily purchased from your local grocery store. In just minutes, you can have these fun and super yummy Halloween spider treats ready to put smiles on everyone's faces! Head to the blog for the step-by-step recipe!
.
.
.  #halloween🎃 #halloweenfood #kidfriendly #kidapproved #targetdollarspot #targetfinds #targethalloween #targetdeals #targetdoesitagain #amazonfinds #halloweentreats #oreos #oreocookies #oreo #pockysticks #pocky #kidfriendlyrecipes #spidercookies #oreorecipe #cookie #childfriendly

Want to make some fun...

I will never forget the day we brought Elle home from the rescue. Super Dad took one look at her and said he was sure she was part lion... She was just missing the mane. So, when we had to decide what type of costume to get Elle this year for Halloween, I knew she HAD to be a lion! And @chewy had the perfect costume for her! Of course, Super Dad and Falynn had to get in on the action too. 
Now tell us, WHO WORE IT BEST?
Super Dad, Falynn or Elle? 
#ChewyPartner #ChewyHalloween .
.
.
#halloweencostume #halloweencostumes #familycostumes #familyhalloweencostumes #dogcostumes #dogcostume #costumesfordogs #halloween🎃 #halloweenmakeupideas #whoworeitbetter #whoworeitbest #familycostumes #sharpei #chowchow #rescuedogs #rescuedogsofinstagram

I will never forget the...

AD: What's for dinner tonight? How about this quick Chicken Parmigiana? In just 30 minutes, you can have this easy and delicious meal prepared for your family. That's why I love the convenience of foods like Tyson® Crispy Chicken Strips. Sure, my kids LOVE them as is, but I love to use them in our favorite dishes to save time. They taste SO good and are new and improved and even crispier! I always make a few extra because everyone wants seconds! They are a good source of protein and are made with 100% natural ingredients so they’re minimally processed with no artificial ingredients and no antibiotics ever.The large club pack size is available at Sam's Club, in the frozen aisle and can be used for multiple meals, so you get more for your money than you would get at a fast food restaurant. Want to save even more time? Order these @tysonbrand Crispy Chicken Strips online using Sam's Club pickup! Head to stories to check out this simple step-by-step recipe! https://lnk2.io/w6yDGlw
.
.
.
.
#whatsfordinner #foodstyle #foodpassion #foodography #momblogger  #foodinsta #foodielife #foodielovers #instafoods #momswithcamera #mytinymoments #kidfriendly #yummyyummy #foodielife #ourcandidlife #foodielifestyle #deliciosa #recipeinspo #mommyblogger #chickenparmigiana #italianfood #chickenparm #pastas #chickendinner #howyouhome #whiteandbright #modernfarmhouse #kitchensofinstagram #minted

AD: What's for dinner tonight?...

Yesterday we visited a local farm and Falynn had the best time ever. She desperately wanted to hold a chicken but she didn’t know how. I love that she wasn’t afraid to ask for help. After learning the right way and trying a few times, she finally got the hang of it. I believe she held 3 different chickens. One 💩 on her shirt and we told her it was good luck. 🤷🏻‍♀️🤣 How was your weekend? Did you try anything new?
.
.
.
#farm #chickencoop #targetstyle #targetdoesitagain #targetfinds #targetdeals #rooster #chickensofinstagram #farms #farming #farmgirl #pumpkinpatch #pumpkinspice #ghouls #girlsrule #countrygirl #countrygirls #countryliving #countryhouse #halloween🎃 #halloweenfun #halloweentime #learnsomethingnew #mommyblogger #loxahatchee

Yesterday we visited a local...

Finally... A costume that has already paid for itself in entertainment value. 🤣 I can’t stop laughing. .
.
.
#targetfinds #targetdoesitagain #targetlife #target #targetdeals #targetcostumes #halloweencostume #halloweencostumes #inflatable #inflatablecostume #videostar #instagramvideos #instavideo #instavideos #viralvideos #dancevideo #videoviral #funnyvideos #funnygirl #funnyaf

Finally... A costume that has...

World Mental Health Day is a day that affects us all. Whether it’s you or a loved one, it seems as though more and more people are speaking out about their struggles with mental health and how it affects their lives. Since having been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder myself years ago, I’ve connected with so many people through social media and am so grateful for this platform where we can reach out to others and let them know that they aren’t alone. What hurts my heart the most, is hearing about the amount of kids that deal with anxiety these days. I wish there was a magic button we could press to take away anxiety from our kids, so that they can enjoy their childhood, but unfortunately, it’s not that easy. Fortunately, there are steps we can take. I am grateful to @theanxietyhealer who has written another guest post on our blog today for those with teenagers who may be struggling with anxiety. She shares what signs to look for and when to seek help. I hope you’ll take a moment to check it out and pass it onto anyone with teenage kids. Let’s help in any way we can. .
.
.
#mentalhealth #worldsmentalhealthday #mentalillness #anxietyrelief #depressionhelp #depressionawareness #anxietysucks #anxietyattack #mentalhealthisimportant #mentalhealthblogger #mystory #endthestigma #endthestigmaofmentalhealth #anxietyproblems #mentalhealthblog #anxietyproblems #dontsufferinsilence #mentalhealthhelp #changeyourthoughts #mindsetmatters #anxietyisreal #teensandanxiety #anxietyinteens

World Mental Health Day is...

I also spent twenty minutes searching for my glasses which were sitting on top of my head yesterday 🤦🏻‍♀️. Please tell me I’m not alone here. .
.
Special thanks to @feltcreativehome for this amazing letterboard!
.
.
.
#Letterboardquotes #letterboard #letterboards #letterboardlove #letterboardfun #farmhouselove #farmhousestyle #letterboardquote #magnoliastyle #howyouhome #makehomeyours #pocketofmyhome #modernfarmhousestyle #modernfarmhousedecor #ighome #modernfarmhouse #howwedwell #homegoodsfinds #raedunnfinds #raedunn #homegoods #feltcreativehome #letterboardhumor #letterboardsofinstagram #letterboardquoteoftheday #targetdollarspot #targetfinds #targetdoesitagain #homegoodshappy #gifted

I also spent twenty minutes...

5 Things You Should Never Say to Someone With Anxiety

If You Love It, Share It!
  • 10
  • 111
  • 97
  •  
  •  
    218
    Shares

Having lived with anxiety for over 13 years, speaking publicly about it for almost 3 and having finally been officially diagnosed with an anxiety disorder recently, I’ve heard just about everything. While my family and friends mean well, so many of them have a knack for saying the wrong thing when my anxiety is at its highest. It occurred to me that they aren’t trying to be hurtful, they are really just trying to help me to get over that “moment”. So instead of getting upset, I figured I’d share the 5 things you should never say to someone with anxiety.

According to the ADAA, anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in the U.S., affecting 40 million adults in the United States, or 18.1% of the population every year. What this means is, someone, if not multiple people in your life, are suffering from some type of anxiety. I’ll be talking about the warning signs in an upcoming post, but for now, I want to share some tips that can help you when those people in your life are having a bad day.

Here are the 5 things you should never say to someone who is suffering from anxiety:

 

Just Don’t Think About It

Let me make something clear. No one that suffers from anxiety is choosing to think about it. We don’t wake up in the morning and think, “what a beautiful day to stay in bed and feel anxious, sad and helpless”. When the anxiety gets bad, in most cases, we can’t stop thinking about it. It’s just not an option. We have to let those crazy thoughts make their way through our brain, until they are ready to leave. If you tell us not to think about it, the only thing we’ll be thinking is how much we want to punch you in the neck, for suggesting such a ridiculous thing.

What you can do instead: Try to distract us. Don’t tell us that you’re doing it, just do it. Distraction is a great way to take our minds off of whatever it is that’s causing the anxiety. We may be hesitant or might not want to pay attention to what you’re doing or showing us. Music has always worked well for me. If someone turns on a song I like, and I start singing, it takes the focus off of whatever it was I was thinking about and I forget. Read the situation. If we aren’t responsive, don’t push too hard.

Calm Down

I think this is the worst of all the things you can say to someone with anxiety. We can’t just “calm down”. It’s not an option. We need to breathe, work through it, let it pass… however it is that they deal with anxiety. Everyone is different. Eventually, we will calm down, but telling us to do so will only make the matter worse.

What you can do instead: Just be there. Listen. Hold our hand. Rub our back. Believe it or not, sometimes it helps just knowing that we aren’t alone. We are looking for compassion, understanding and support. Providing those three things can make all the difference.

Have You Tried This Miracle Product

Do not, under any circumstances, use the opportunity to sell us a product. Please. I beg of you. There is nothing more irritating than someone claiming that a product will miraculously take our anxiety away. This method is especially awful if you are trying to use the moment to make some money off of us or recruit us. We are dealing with enough as it is. In no way, will buying a product from you, or signing up for your team, ever make our anxiety magically disappear. Don’t do it. Ever.

What you can do instead: Keep your sales pitch to yourself. If you suffer from anxiety and have found something (a method or a product) that calms you down, you can reach out as a fellow-sufferer and find out what they have tried, what has worked, what hasn’t worked, and then (only if we ask), tell us what you do when you’re feeling most anxious. If we know that it’s coming from a good place and from someone who understands, we will be more receptive. But NEVER have that conversation with the hopes of making a quick buck off of us. If you’re constantly posting about your MLM, we are well aware that you sell it. Believe me.

Snap Out of It

If snapping out of it was an option, don’t you think we would just flip that switch? If it was that easy, don’t you think anxiety wouldn’t even be an issue? People with anxiety can’t just snap out of it. We can’t stop worrying. For many of us, the more we try not to think about something, the harder it is to get it out of our head. When you say “snap out of it” we think you don’t believe that what we’re feeling is real. Would you tell someone who had a cut in their hand that they weren’t really cut? Chances are you wouldn’t, because you can see the cut. While you might not be able to see anxiety, it’s just as real and it hurts just as badly.

What you can do instead: Do some research. Learn about anxiety, it’s causes and what could trigger it. Try to understand what occurs when we are having an anxiety attack. You’ll find that it’s so much easier to help and you’re less likely to make the anxiety worse, when you understand what’s happening.

Stop Over Analyzing

For most of us, anxiety and over analyzing go hand in hand. When we are on our way to a special event or vacation, many of us will analyze every second before we even get there. We imagine everything that can go wrong and plan out how we will cope with each awful situation. It’s our way of feeling in control. And our anxiety is usually at it’s highest when we feel like we don’t have complete control over every minute, of every day. For some of us, this over analyzing helps us to get past the anxiety, though at the same time, we are magnifying the anxiety by thinking about all of the things that can go wrong. It’s a vicious cycle but it’s something we can’t just stop doing.

What you can do instead: Help to make us feel as though we are in control. Allow us to make lists, talk about alternative options or just humor us when we make a comment about how we don’t want to go in the water in case there are sharks. Let us see that it’s safe for ourselves. Once we feel in control, we will ease up and join in. You just have to be patient and let us do things on our own terms.

I hope, if nothing else, this helps you in dealing with those of your loved ones that suffer from anxiety or panic disorder. And if you aren’t able to come up with the right words, please remember that the best thing you can do for someone who is having an anxiety attack, is to just be there for them. They may not acknowledge you, but they know you are there and that makes all the difference for us, when things are at their worst.

When a loved one suffers from anxiety, there are certain things you should never say to them. These are 5 things you should never say to someone with anxiety.

XOXO
signature

What do you think?

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

CommentLuv badge

50 Comments
  • Danielle Rice
    July 19, 2019

    My husband is guilty of telling me to calm down, and stop overanalyzing things. I just side-eye him hard.
    Danielle Rice recently posted I CUT MY LOCSMy Profile

  • Lyanna Soria
    July 19, 2019

    Calm down and Snap out of it are the most common things I hear people say. It’s great to know more about handling people who have anxiety.

  • Jenna
    July 18, 2019

    Yes! I am dealing with postpartum anxiety right now and love how you rephrased all the common things that I have heard from people who don’t get it.
    Jenna recently posted Italian Cucumber Tomato SaladMy Profile

  • Mila Clarke Buckley
    July 18, 2019

    This is such good advice. It’s easy to forget that things that may work for us personally, don’t work for everyone else, and that anxiety is serious
    Mila Clarke Buckley recently posted How to balance your full-time job and your side hustleMy Profile

  • Amy-Lynn Denham
    July 18, 2019

    Ugh I think the stop overanalyzing one is the worst. I know that people mean well but it’s like impossible for people to just stop doing that. It’s become a defense mechanism and until they are able to feel safe in themselves and their lives they will not be able to just stop doing that.

  • Autumn Murray
    July 18, 2019

    Great advice! I really wish people would think before they speak. I suffer from anxiety and can’t tell you how many times people have said to me – “just don’t think about it.”
    Autumn Murray recently posted Thank You For The Music George Michael!My Profile

  • Tami
    July 18, 2019

    Oh, my biggest pet peeve is for someone to tell me to ‘calm down’. It only aggravates me. Anybody who hasn’t dealt with anxiety shouldn’t be offering advice either. Ugh!
    Tami recently posted The Very Best, Hands-On, Kinda Dangerous Family DevotionsMy Profile

  • Ricci
    July 18, 2019

    This a great post that someone without anxiety will definitely find handy. Thanks for taking the time to put it together!

  • Angela
    July 18, 2019

    Yes, to all of this! I think people’s intentions are good, but it’s hard for people to seriously understand what it is like to experience anxiety if they have not had to deal with it.

  • Leigh Suznovich
    July 18, 2019

    Those are the absolute worst things to say to me when I am anxious! You’ve nailed it.

  • Celebrate Woman Today
    July 17, 2019

    It’s great to know what NOT to say or do in situations like this one. The best thing is just be, hug, hear out with your heart and soul.

  • Shannon Gurnee
    July 17, 2019

    These are definitely some things you should NOT say to a person with anxiety. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this subject.
    Shannon Gurnee recently posted Keep Your Energy Levels High With These Breastfeeding Diet IdeasMy Profile

  • Tess
    July 17, 2019

    Anxiety is on the rise these days. I have it now after an emotional traumatic experience.
    Tess recently posted Watermelon PizzaMy Profile

  • One of my loved ones has really bad anxiety and this was helpful for me. Thank you for this

  • Rachel
    July 17, 2019

    It took me years to figure out that I had anxiety. I thought I just couldn’t let things go. It is mostly controlled with medication now and it is so freeing.
    Rachel recently posted 8 Ways To Protect Your Kids’ EyesMy Profile

  • Jennifer
    July 17, 2019

    Thanks for the reminder of what to say and what not to say. I have been known to use the “calm down” only to escalate things.
    Jennifer recently posted Watermelon Cucumber Feta SaladMy Profile

  • Gervin Khan
    July 17, 2019

    Honestly, I have never encounter a person who has an anxiety but I am glad to know these things at least I was able to know to learn how to handle this kind of situation. Thanks for sharing your tips with us!

    • Heather
      July 17, 2019

      I’m willing to bet you have, you just didn’t know it. Many with anxiety hide it from their friends and family.

  • jess
    July 17, 2019

    These are all very good tips and I know when someone has said any of these things to me it does make it worse.
    jess recently posted Easy Summer STEAM Activity for Kids.My Profile

  • Lavern Moore
    July 17, 2019

    These are some great tips for what not to say to someone struggling with anxiety. Unfortunately there are people who don’t care, are insensitive or worst of all gaslighting. This should help!

  • Melissa Dixon
    July 17, 2019

    It can be a hard thing to discuss with those who do not understand. Sometimes friends try to offer suggestions but without a real understanding, they seem to minimalize it without that being their true intention. I hope you find what works for you.

  • Star Traci
    July 17, 2019

    I agree with this list. My husband has PTSD and my daughter has generalized anxiety. I still sometimes say the wrong things but I work hard to make sure that they know I love them and am there to support them.

  • Monica Y
    July 17, 2019

    Great topic, we tend to try to solve things by saying things that might not be the best, this is a great reminder of just listening instead of trying to make it better when we can’t

  • Ntensibe Edgar Michael
    July 17, 2019

    A big hug for you, Heather! I love the info and tips you have shared on living with anxiety. I truly truly hope someone picks them up and makes good use of them.
    Ntensibe Edgar Michael recently posted You follow leadsMy Profile

  • Catalina
    July 17, 2019

    I’ve never thought about it! Thanks for letting me know about these things!

    • Christine
      July 17, 2019

      My husband has told me to calm down in the past, I’ve said to him “do you think I choose to be like this and that I look forward to something for months only to ruin it in my head”, if think he understands a bit better now, when he sees things are getting too much for me he is talks with to me about otherwise things and tries to distract me, sometimes it works an sometimes it doesn’t but at least he tries.

  • Ruth I
    July 17, 2019

    These are all so true! I really hate hearing things like this, make things worse. I hope my family will be more aware and sensitive about it.

  • Kita Bryant
    July 17, 2019

    That calm down stuff gets on my nerves especially when they aren’t even trying to hear my side. These are some great tips!

  • Amberly
    July 16, 2019

    So So true!!! I have anxiety and I agree with this completely. It’s hard because people who haven’t experienced it don’t quite understand how we can’t just do these things and move past it.
    Amberly recently posted The importance of Relationship Education Before and During MarriageMy Profile

  • Kathy
    July 16, 2019

    This is such a great post. I deal with anxiety myself, and I definitely hate when some say some of these. I love the alternatives you have mentioned.

  • Wren
    July 16, 2019

    This is a great list of what NOT to say. Sadly a lot of people don’t know what they are saying.
    Wren recently posted Happy 4th of July!My Profile

  • Kelly
    July 16, 2019

    Amen. As someone with anxiety, I can attest that none of this helps.
    Kelly recently posted Everything You Need to Know About Bastrop TXMy Profile

  • Mama to 6 Blessings
    July 16, 2019

    Those are great tips. Snap out of it does not sound like a sympathetic thing to say! I suffered years ago from anxiety myself, it’s hard.
    Mama to 6 Blessings recently posted Clothespin Dragonflies My Profile

  • Valerie
    July 16, 2019

    All good points as I have dealt with depression and people say the same sort of things. Some people don’t care what they say. Others mean well and just don’t know what to say.

  • Stacie
    July 16, 2019

    Very well said. Your points ring true and we need to rise to the occasion and become more aware

  • Beth
    July 16, 2019

    A couple of people that I love suffer from an anxiety disorder. These are great reminders for me, so I can be helpful instead of adding to the problem.
    Beth recently posted Engaging Tails: Chipper Bones In Raleigh, North CarolinaMy Profile

  • Tasheena
    July 16, 2019

    I really enjoyed reading this post. Your tips are really helpful. At times, I really don’t know what to say.
    Tasheena recently posted Disney Springs Recap + PhotosMy Profile

  • Bella
    July 16, 2019

    this is such a great post. super informative.

  • Rena
    July 16, 2019

    I hate all of those! I went to my first therapy session last week to work on my anxiety. I had to reschedule the next because I fell so now I have to wait a bit to go back. I’ll be happy to at least get it under control!
    Rena recently posted Why Now Is The Perfect Time For A Re-DesignMy Profile

  • Telling someone to calm down is so bad in every scenario. I definitely agree with the points you made

  • Tiffany La Forge-Grau
    July 16, 2019

    Oh my gosh, the miracle product thing gets so old. Sometimes, a pill won’t fix it! Plus, I don’t want to spend hundreds to attempt something I know won’t work.

  • Tabitha Blue
    July 16, 2019

    Thanks for sharing and being vulnerable… and for helping others too! This is such good info to know.

  • Tara Pittman
    July 16, 2019

    Those things would just annoy me more. I am not sure if they would cal me down.

  • Emily Fata
    July 16, 2019

    I completely agree with all of these! Another one that makes my anxiety worse is when people tell me that the situation “isn’t THAT bad”. The worst! There are so many more productive and kind things you can use instead.

  • Emman Damian
    July 16, 2019

    This phrase, “Have You Tried This Miracle Product” is a big NO for someone with anxiety. They should be more sensitive about their words and carefully select it.
    Emman Damian recently posted Koibito’s Now Available in Metro ManilaMy Profile

  • Amber Myers
    July 16, 2019

    I try to always be understanding. I know I can get anxiety at times–social anxiety, for one, and my husband has gotten better with it. He used to say things like “calm down” and realized quickly it was the wrong thing to say.
    Amber Myers recently posted Hey, It’s OkayMy Profile

  • jenna
    July 16, 2019

    OMG this is so good! I want to share this with everyone I know!
    jenna recently posted How To Make an Açaí BowlMy Profile

    • Heather
      July 16, 2019

      Spread the word, Jenna!

  • Telisha
    July 16, 2019

    Thank you so much for sharing this and I will be sharing this to my Facebook. So many times I hear a few of the things you listed above from family like I can control my anxiety and that’s just not accurate. 😘

    • Heather
      July 16, 2019

      Thank you so much for sharing Telisha. Hopefully we can educate people together!

Previous
How to Prepare for Amazon Prime Day
5 Things You Should Never Say to Someone With Anxiety

%d bloggers like this: