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I read something the other day on Facebook that said that the song that was number 1 on your 14th birthday, defines your life. I googled it, excited to find a message, a sign (I’m a sucker for that sort of thing). Instead, I found it was “Cream” by Prince. 😐 Cream? What does that mean? Ice cream? Coffee creamer? 
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Why should you wait any longer?
Take a chance
It could only make you stronger”  Message received, Prince. Message received. 
What song was number one on your 14th birthday?
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I’m over comparing my life to other people’s lives on social media.
My house might not be as fancy. 
My wardrobe is not as expensive. 
I don't apply makeup as well or even at all most days.
I don’t have beautiful, long flowing hair.
I don’t drive a car that’s worth bragging about. 
We don’t go on lavish trips around the world. 
I don’t carry loads of money in designer handbags. 
Does that make me less of a person? 
Does that make me less of an influencer? 
No. It makes me a regular 40-something Mom who has chosen to open up and share our lives on social media.  It makes me someone who has built this hobby of photography and writing into a business that has solely supported my family for a year and a half. 
I’m proud of that. 
I’m proud that I’m not a follower.
I’m proud that I have worked hard for what I’ve achieved.
I’m proud of influencers like me who are unapologetically themselves.  What are you proud of? .
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How Anxiety is a Lot Like Roller Skating

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I recently bought roller skates for my two youngest daughters. They had never roller skated before, but we were determined to teach them because we want them to spend more time away from their screens and more time outdoors, being kids. While I was watching them, it occurred to me that roller skating is a lot like anxiety. That may sound like a strange comparison, but hear me out. When you live with anxiety day in and day out, you tend to discover strange similarities like this one.

It’s Scary at First

Roller Skating: Think about that first time you laced up your roller skates. Unless you were used to moving around on wheels, it’s scary. You feel shaky and unbalanced, like you could crash into something at any moment. It seems unlikely that you’ll ever get used to the feeling.

Anxiety: Now think about that first time you experienced anxiety. It’s also scary. You feel shaky and unbalanced, like your life could crash at any moment. It seems unlikely that you’ll ever get used to the feeling.

You’ll Probably Fall Down a Lot

Roller Skating: That first time, and possibly the next few times after that, you feel like you’re going to fall. In fact, you may just do that, a number of times. You might get hurt physically if you aren’t wearing protective gear, but you may also get hurt mentally. That first fall may stop you from getting up and trying again. You’re afraid that you’ll get injured again, possibly worse next time. You go over everything you may have done wrong, that caused you to fall and make sure to do things differently in the future.

Anxiety: The first time, and probably all of the other times after that, you feel like you’re falling, like there is no way to stop yourself from falling again. That first anxiety attack is now forever etched into your brain. It’s damaged you mentally. You may be afraid that it’s going to happen again, so you think of every possible scenario that might have caused this one. You vow to never do any of those things again, in hopes that you will never experience another anxiety attack. You’re afraid that next time, it might be worse.

Going too Fast and it’s Hard to Stop

Roller Skating: Once you finally get going, especially if it’s even slightly downhill, you are rolling fast. Everything is passing on each side of you and you hope nothing gets in your way. Even with those little rubber stoppers, you aren’t sure you can stop. What if you try to stop and wind up falling? Can you use that speed to your advantage? Maybe. It’s a rush. You haven’t felt anything like it before, it’s a mixture of excitement and terror, all rolled into one. All you can do is breathe and take in the moment, until you finally come to a stop.

Anxiety: Once you have a panic attack, you feel like you’re rolling downhill. It’s fast. Life is going on around you, but it’s too blurry for you to notice. All you can focus on is the panic and trying to figure out how to stop yourself. What if this lasts forever? Can you live life like this? It’s terrifying. You wish you had a stop button, but nothing like that exists. You breathe, slowly and thoughtfully until the panic finally comes to a stop.

Once you Get Past Initial Fear, it isn’t so Scary

Roller Skating: Once you’ve gotten the hang of it, and get past the initial fear, you’ll find that roller skating isn’t so scary. You have learned to control your body and your movements in a way that has allowed you to enjoy it. You look forward to roller skating again and each time, it gets easier and easier for you to do it without getting hurt.

Anxiety: While anxiety attacks are scary, once you’ve lived through them and realize that you can get through them with some breathing techniques, it’s a little less scary. You have learned that distraction, focusing on your breathing and mindfulness have allowed you to get into control of yourself during this scary time. You’ve built up a shield of armor that can be pulled out and used to fight the scary feelings over and over again, until they’re gone.

Someone Can Hold Your Hand

Roller Skating: While you’ve finally learned to skate on your own, you know that skating with a friend or family member is easier, and more fun. They can help you balance and enjoy the experience with you. Together, you can hold hands and conquer the moment. Sure, you might fall, but falling together can be less scary and even funny in some situations.

Anxiety: While there are moments during an anxiety attack, where you might want to be left alone, in most cases, having someone just nearby, or holding your hand, makes it a little less scary. They can remind you to breathe, distract you or just comfort you a bit. Sure, it’s a panic attack, but it’s a little less scary knowing you aren’t alone.

Do you see how anxiety and roller skating are similar? Can you think of any other similarities?

Make sure to read more about my journey with anxiety and share yours in the comments below. Together, we can get through this.

It may be a strange comparison, but anxiety and roller skating are actually very similar.

XOXO
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  • Tiffany
    August 8, 2019

    The comparison is on point. Thanks for sharing this wonderful post ♥️ ♥️ By any chance, are you interested in doing collabs? xx

  • Maureen
    August 7, 2019

    So true! Anxiety sometimes can just sneak up on you too. I love your site. Lots of helpful info.
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  • Catherine
    August 7, 2019

    You’re so right! But as long as we keep getting up and trying again…just like with roller skating we will eventually get the hang of it and be able to stand on our own 🙂

  • Didi Marie
    August 7, 2019

    You nailed it. My son suffers from anxiety, and this describes his struggles perfectly. This is a lifelong journey, so getting the best set of skates possible is key. Good luck!

  • Lisa
    August 7, 2019

    This is such an interesting post to read. I never thought about the comparison before, but you raise some good points.

  • Magaly Tompkins
    August 7, 2019

    This is a great analogy and preception on anxiety. Ive suffered from anxiety in the past and thankfully I was able to get out of that funk.

  • Sondra Barker
    August 7, 2019

    Love this, especially about someone holding your hand!! Having a support system, even if it’s just one special person, makes the whole situation 100% better – Sondra Barker @cuisineandtravel

  • Sam
    August 6, 2019

    I’ve never dealt with anxiety on a regular or debilitating basis, but I think this is a really great analogy. For people who don’t deal with anxiety, I think this will help them understand it better.

  • Kara
    August 6, 2019

    That is a brilliant analogy!!

  • Alexandra Cook
    August 6, 2019

    I love how you take courage as you shared us your story. the comparison was so relevant and I know how it feels, glad that there were people behind me who are willing to support and understand my roller skating kind of life.

  • Cyndi Buchanan
    August 6, 2019

    This is so encouraging. I’ve struggled with anxiety off and on throughout my life. It’s good to know I’m not alone and there is light at the end of the tunnel.
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  • Marysa
    August 6, 2019

    Anxiety issues are tough. I have a few anxieties I deal with, but I have some friends with a lot of anxiety, where it effects daily life. It is helpful to understand a little more what it is like.
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  • kumamonjeng
    August 6, 2019

    I think you have a good description of axiety attack with roller skating. Great awareness for us.

  • Yeah Lifestyle
    August 6, 2019

    Thank you for your explanation on anxiety using roller skating as an example. This makes it easy for someone like me to understand the subject better in layman’s term.

  • shan
    August 4, 2019

    Great analogy. I can definitely relate!!
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  • Mommy Peach
    August 3, 2019

    Having anxiety is really difficult and this is a great comparison. Getting to know yourself and how anxiety works will make it easier for you.
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  • Jeanine
    August 3, 2019

    Yes. I never looked at it this way but it is so true. Anxiety is just like roller skating. Now you’ve got me thinking!

  • Joanna Clute
    August 3, 2019

    This is such a great simile. Anxiety is tough, but you can get it under control with practice!

  • Wendy Polisi
    August 3, 2019

    It can be tricky to balance with it! So many things can come at you all at once and then boom, you are on the ground!

  • nirjon rahman
    August 3, 2019

    How does the importance of social media today change the way that social pressure works? Is the quality of pressure different now, or is it the same, just more intense?

    If the norm is to have everything that you do being portrayed on social media, then for sure, social image becomes more important. Many actions are now expected to be shared, and the mere fact of not sharing sends a signal that there’s nothing interesting to share. That creates pressure to share. This is just a conjecture, but we might be getting to the stage where people care more about the image of what they’re doing, how it looks to others, than the actual experience. This may create anxiety. People might look at what others are sharing and feel bad about their own life. They don’t understand that everyone’s trying to make their life look amazing on social media.
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  • Stefani Tolson
    August 3, 2019

    I never thought about the two together before. I think you are right now. Anxiety can be like roller skating!

  • Amanda
    August 3, 2019

    This comparison is totally spot on. As someone who struggles with anxiety, I can totally connect to this.

  • Terri Beavers
    August 3, 2019

    I never had anxiety until my failed back surgery. I was terrified by what was happening to me. I love that you’ve broken this down so that others can see that what they’re going thru is normal and there is help, even if it’s a helping hand.
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  • Catalina
    August 3, 2019

    I ‘ve never thought about anxiety like roller skating, but you’re right: they both have a lot in common!

  • Carolyn
    August 3, 2019

    Wow! What a great post. I would have never thought to compare roller skating and anxiety this way. I don’t have anything to add because I think you covered it!
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  • Emily Fata
    August 3, 2019

    This is such a great analogy! I’m going to use this going forward, to explain to people what it feels like to have anxiety.

  • Marina
    August 3, 2019

    Anxiety can be really bad, I had panic attacks in the past so I know what you’re talking about. Life and rollercoaster are similar, don’t you think?

  • Celebrate Woman Today
    August 2, 2019

    I LOVE the comparison you use in the post speaking about anxiety. It makes it feel real and very personal. Thank you, Heather.

  • Rosey
    August 2, 2019

    Having someone to hold your hand makes everything better. 🙂 This is a great post!

  • Amy Desrosiers
    August 2, 2019

    I have been diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder. I was prescribed meds but did not end up taking them. Faith and exercise helped me to curb it but it is still in me and rears itself sometimes.

  • Ya
    August 2, 2019

    The comparison was so spot on, I never thought to compare anxiety to roller skating. Anxiety is not an easy thing to live with.

  • Tara Pittman
    August 2, 2019

    This comparison is so on spot. It is scary at first but we learn to deal with it

  • keikilani
    August 2, 2019

    Such a great metaphor. I love your point of someone can hold your hand.

  • Heather
    August 2, 2019

    That’s a good comparison 🙂 I love that you’re sharing your experience with this!
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  • Blessing
    August 2, 2019

    At first Roller Skating appears more scary, you get to love it more when you are okay with it, nice tisp keep up.
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  • Emman Damian
    August 2, 2019

    I really believe that Someone Can Hold Your Hand! It means like anxiety, someone can give you moral support. Hang on! You can make it!
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  • Quin Cl
    August 2, 2019

    Oh I’m already anxious of the thought of trying roller skating. I have never done it before, and I don’t even know how. So, I agree, roller skating is parallel to anxiety, my own anxiety related to this stuff. 🙂
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  • Telisha
    August 2, 2019

    I’ve never thought of it like this but you’re so right! Thanks for sharing and for always being so transparent!❤️❤️

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