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Like most of you, I watched George Floyd fight for his last breath on national TV, by someone whose job it was to protect people. It sickened me.

I’ve struggled to find the words to express how I was feeling. In all honesty, I was afraid to speak about it in fear that I would say the wrong thing or my thoughts would be misinterpreted.

But staying silent can be misinterpreted too.

This morning I watched this video by Cut and I knew I couldn’t stay silent any longer.

Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are the change that we seek. Barack Obama
“Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.” – Barack Obama

I am a white woman. I will NEVER know what it’s like to be a person of color. I will never be pulled over because of the color of my skin. I have never been afraid of the police. And knowing that so many, at a young age are taught to act a certain way around a police officer, in fear that they may be arrested or worse, killed, for absolutely no reason at all, breaks my heart.

But this isn’t about me or my feelings.

This is about the senseless killings that continue happening. It’s about the injustice that people of color face. It’s about so many families that have lost loved ones. It’s about all of the beautiful black children and their parents and grandparents and extended family, that are afraid of what could happen to them because of the color of their skin.

Imagine leaving your home every day and wondering if you’ll ever return. No one should ever have to feel that way.

It’s time we stopped the silence and did something about it. It’s time we focus on change and how we can do better.

If we are going to be part of the solution, we have to engage the problems. Majora Carter
“If we are going to be part of the solution, we have to engage the problems.” – Majora Carter

So what can we do?

Listen to and honor the emotions of people of color.

Stop saying things like “I don’t see color”. Instead, embrace those differences, learn from them, respect them.

Acknowledge that racism is real. Just believing you aren’t a racist isn’t enough unless you’re doing something to change it.

Educate yourself about racism. Whether it’s reading books, researching online or speaking to people of color. Use every opportunity to learn what you don’t know.

artwork by lucia castillo, age 14
Artwork by my 14 year old daughter, Lucia Castillo

Be an ally. Stand in unity against the injustice.

Teach your children about racism and why it’s wrong.

Challenge others to do something to invoke change.

Stop responding to #blacklivesmatter with #alllivesmatter and learn why it’s wrong to do so.

Don’t ignore the ignorance of others. Instead, lead them in the right direction.

Keep the conversation going. This shouldn’t be something we speak about only after something tragic happens.

Support the Black Lives Matter movement by donating.

Ask your public officials what they are doing to make a change and support those that are on the right side of the fight.

Reach out to your black friends and ask them how they are. Listen to them. Support them. Stand beside them.

If we all work together, we can make a change. We just have to stop saying we will do something and start actually doing something.

Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced. James Baldwin
“Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced.” – James Baldwin

We can't allow this to continue. We need to do better. We need to educate our children and speak out for what we know is unjust and unfair.

 

XOXO
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33 Comments
  • Tisha
    June 5, 2020

    Such a powerful message. Thank you for this!

  • Sharon
    June 5, 2020

    This is such a heartfelt post, thank you for speaking out.

  • Brooke r
    June 5, 2020

    Well said Heather! What happened to him never should have what an absolute tragedy!

  • Nicole
    June 5, 2020

    This is exactly what I have been wanting to say, I just haven’t been able to put it into words. So thank you.

  • Kait
    June 4, 2020

    Thank you for this. The more we speak up and teach our children the same thing, the better. I’m listening too and want to be better.

  • Jessica Collazo
    June 3, 2020

    You are so right staying quiet is being part of the problem we have to stand against it.
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  • Eloise
    June 3, 2020

    Yes to embracing differences! it’s heartbreaking and I can’t wait for justice and equality to come, everyone has to continue to fight the good fight so that change happens this time around. And for all of the parents out there we must teach our kids to love and respect all people so they can teach their kids and it can be passed down from generation to generation to hopefully eliminate hate.
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  • blair villanueva
    June 3, 2020

    Let’s continue to fight for racism and stopping violence. Let’s start in educating our kids and family members at home.

  • Melanie williams
    June 3, 2020

    Of course all lifes matter no matter what…I think that it should go without even saying. Where we live in the UK we must be lucky as everyone seems to get on regardless

  • I hope everyone supports this movement because we all need this kind of change right now.

  • Monidipa
    June 2, 2020

    Yes, Black Lives Matter. They matter. Not all the white people are racists. Black people deserve equal rights too.
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  • Scarlet
    June 2, 2020

    This was very powerful and well said. I love the quote from Majora Carter. It we really want anything good to come out of this it has to be change for the better and we can’t do that without seeing some of the root problem.s
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  • Gervin Khan
    June 2, 2020

    Such amazing post, it’s truly a very inspirational one and encouraging too. This is what everybody needs right now, we must change to help the world fight this pandemic we’re experiencing.

  • Joy
    June 2, 2020

    well said, Heather. Looks like we had similar ideas for posts yesterday. I like the James Baldwin quote. Stirring. Might just pin it!
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  • Marie Phillips
    June 2, 2020

    I am still horrified by all of this and can’t figure out why in this day and age we can’t live a more civilized life among each other. May George Floyd live in peace and his family somehow find some peace.
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  • Marysa
    June 2, 2020

    These are such sad times. I am so discouraged by what is going on right now, and I can’t believe how much ignorance and racism there is right now.

  • Toni
    June 2, 2020

    I totally agree with you! This is a great read!

  • Lisa Favre
    June 2, 2020

    I love how you mention to not ignore the ignorance of others. We have to do this in order to teach those around us – you are SO on point with that!
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  • Amary
    June 2, 2020

    A great article racism can a diffuclt topic to some people but enough lives have been lost I hope that we can see real change from all this.

  • Piper Mortez
    June 2, 2020

    Great article! I totally agree that you should teach your children about racism and why it’s wrong. Changing a generation could make all the difference

  • Ann
    June 2, 2020

    I agree with you, there is never a reason to be completly silent if you dont agree with whats beeing said. In a situation like this, you should always speak up, if just to say no!

  • Lisa
    June 2, 2020

    This is so powerful. It’s horrendous what’s been going on at the moment, and standing together is the best thing we can do.

  • Clare M
    June 2, 2020

    What is happening is absolutely appalling and heartbreaking. I can’t imagine how scary it must be to not know whether you will come home or wonder if your child is safe constantly when they are out alone

  • debra p
    June 2, 2020

    I agree. This is about everyone coming together. You have written a beautiful post with suggestions that can truly help.

  • Millie
    June 1, 2020

    I really hope to never hear another black person say, “I can’t breathe.” I am tired of some politicians saying all the right things but never do anything to correct the situation once they are elected. Sadly, this will die down soon and everyone will go back to their lives. And there will be another case. I wish I was more optimistic.

  • Fatima Torres
    June 1, 2020

    I couldn’t agree more with you on honoring their emotions. We are all hurting right now.

  • Patricia
    June 1, 2020

    What a wonderful post! Such horribly sad times that need all our efforts. Thank you for sharing this.

  • Surekha
    June 1, 2020

    I think we all need to stand together now more than ever. This fight is not just for black people. It’s for all people who recognize that the systemic racism in this country needs to stop.

  • Fiona Cambouropoulos
    June 1, 2020

    Well put, this is one case that has got to so many of us. Now is not the time to be silent, its the time to stand up and say no to things that are wrong.

  • Tara Pittman
    June 1, 2020

    I am going to teach my boys to love everyone and respect everyone. I am also going to teach my boys that they are not better than anyone else because of their skin color.

  • Janis
    June 1, 2020

    What happened to this man is so sad, a real tragedy. Hoping that all the social unrest stops immediately before any more damage can be done to all the small businesses already so ravaged by Covid-19.

  • robin rue
    June 1, 2020

    It’s been hard to know what to say. I am with all blacks during this time and will support them as much as they need!

  • Amy Desrosiers
    June 1, 2020

    It is very tragic what happened to Mr. Floyd. I think it is very important that our country unifies to bring equality to all. No one should be mistreated because of their skin color.

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