
Hey Siri… You’ve been so helpful with so much in my daily life and I’m hoping you can help me with something I’m struggling with.
Remember that time I wanted to find a vegan restaurant? You showed me a map with at least 2, just miles from my house.
And then there was that time that I wanted to know where I had seen that actress before. You gave me a list of movies she was in.
Well, this request is a little different. It’s something that lots of women around the world are probably struggling with as well. Especially those who deal with anxiety, like I do.
Hey Siri, where can I find some confidence?
I went from buying clothes that showed off my body to wearing the a t-shirt and yoga pants every day. Comfortable is the new fashionable, isn’t it? I need something to cover this post baby bod. I know it’s been almost 7 years, but I’m still working on it.
I read somewhere that makeup can make you feel beautiful. So, I bought a bunch of makeup. I used it once, but I wound up wiping it off because I think it makes me look like I’m trying too hard. What’s that saying, you can put lipstick on a pig, but it’s still a pig…
I finally built up the courage to get my hair professionally cut, after 7 years. It didn’t make me feel confident, like everyone said it would. I straightened and curled it twice and it’s been in a Mom bun ever since. $45 down the drain.
They say exercise gets those endorphins going and that if I get back to my pre-baby weight, I’ll get my confidence back. But when I start exercising, and my heart starts beating fast, I feel like I’m about to have a panic attack, so I stop.
I tried affirmations. Every morning I woke up, looked in the mirror and told myself:
I am beautiful.
I am intelligent.
I am loved.
I am needed.
I can do anything I put my mind to.
Then, I changed into my t-shirt and yoga pants, put my hair into a Mom bun, and came up with 100 excuses why I couldn’t exercise.
So you see, Siri, I need your help. Where can I find some confidence?
Is there an app I can download?
Directions to the confidence store you can map out?
A recipe for a green smoothie with a boost of certainty?
I’m not looking for an easy fix, I know that people with self-confidence work hard at it. I’m just searching for a way back to myself.
To the me that used to think I could change the world.
To the me that enjoyed self-care.
To the me that loved fashion.
To the me that always had a smile on my face.
To the me that loved myself.
To the me that was excited about the future.
To the me that was going to be the perfect role model for my daughters.
Siri? Hello?
Ok, maybe I’ll ask Alexa.





I wish Siri or Alexa can help. But to be honest, it all starts from within. I lost my confidence few years back and I’m starting to regain it again. I know that it will be back. What I did was to compete with myself. I started to love myself more and just build on my confidence.
Confidence can be a tough thing. We really need to believe in ourselves, but so often people are working against us.
I know what you mean. I´m a mom of two and I was lucky to get back in shape fast (well…lucky is not the right word lol – both of my babies would wake up every 2h day and night till 6 months – so my weight loss was kind of a side effect of this lifestyle lol) But I´m still not in the best shape I´ve ever been (and maybe will never be) – and it takes time to adjust and learn to love the new you!
As others have mentioned, this is linked to a deeper question of self-integrity. We always have the chance to do and act according to what we believe, versus what others think, but it’s not that easy. Many times, we are not taught how to “think” in the most conducive way. Hence, it’s up to us to take control and do it ourselves, which I believe we can do and reclaim our personal power.
Very tough questions! I wish SIRI could help, that would be wonderful!
This is so cute—asking Siri for confidence! It would be awesome if Siri were a genie that could grant our wishes.
I am working on all of this. I had to make a gradual change. It was too shocking to do it all at once.